Hi I'm really looking for advice about this. Our ds1 (age 6) has always had behavioral issues. Not so much that I was overly concerned, we just thought the terrible twos stated early and lasted a long time! Recently we took him to psychology and OT. He has been diagnosed with mild sensory defensiveness and I totally agree with this (I think I have the same). I have always thought that his behavior was anxiety driven and we have been using visuals in our house from he was 3. Preparation for things happening always helped and he found change challenging but despite outbursts on a regular occurrence we coped. It has always felt like a battle of wills between him and us. I never know if I should be giving in our holding my ground. Some days I would decide what had to be done and as long as it happened her could do it whatever way he wanted that was fine, e.g at weekend he can choose his own breakfast, eat it whenever, choose his clothes and take as long as he wants to put them on, obviously this doesn't work on days we have to go to school and work! on those days he fights against things but we get there eventually-it's just so hard.
Anyway he's having cognitive assessment at the moment and psychologist thought autism from our description of ds1 but as soon as he met him he said no (I've always said it's not autism). Now he's given us something to read on PDA to see what we think. Well I read the thing he gave us and have spent the last 24 hrs reading every regurgitated thing on the net about PDA! Some of it definitely fits him but reading the parents blogs he doesn't feel as bad as some of the things they write. I think he hass demand avoidance but pathological doesn't sit well with me cos sometimes you can say put your plate in the sink and he does it without thinking. Are there different levels to this? Also he was not delayed at talking-he had words at 7 months and at 1 yr had enough single words for a simple conversation with you. He is very sociable with adults and likes kids but has problems with them not playing what he wants. Control is a big part of his life and the OT said it was a strategy for his sensory defensiveness. I'm so confused and not helped as dh read the PDA stuff and just said it sounded like ds1.
Sorry this is so long just wanted to get as much info in as possible
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mum2DEW · 26/09/2013 09:48
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