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Toddler 2.3 being rough - how best to curb this?

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kf1979 · 07/09/2013 12:14

Hi,

My DS is 2.3 and going through an aggressive phase and I don't seem to be able to get through to him that this is not acceptable behaviour.

He has a tendency to grab at my/DH face when in a strop but managed to scratch one of his little friends on the face the other day while competing for a toy. This is the first time he's lashed out at another child and I'm really concerned about this as he regularly has Playschool, etc, and I work P/T so am not always able to be there to hover and grab.

It's definitely worse when he is tired or overexcited, but he was in fine form when this particular incident happened so I want to nip this in the bud before it gets any worse.

We've tried telling off, explaining that it hurts (we get a rather insincere 'sorry'), naughty corner and ignoring, but nothing seems to get through.

He's pretty full-on active and finds it literally impossible to sit still, but he's very verbal and can communicate with no issues, so I'd kind of hoped this might reduce the usual toddler frustrations. Seems not!

Any advice gratefully received as I'm really concerned about this latest incident and want to ensure this doesn't escalate.

Thanks!

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kf1979 · 08/09/2013 04:14

Bumping hopefully!

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RemoteControlledChaos · 13/09/2013 23:46

My DS same age and I'm searching the boards for similar behaviour & getting-to-sleep issues. So I'm afraid I don't really have any advice except that removing DS to his room and telling him to stay there until he's ready to be nice again seems to work for us (short term). Maybe something similar could work at toddler group e.g removing him to a corner to give him a talking to, if you've not already tried that.

DS is doing a lot of hitting at bedtime (and other undesirable behaviours like removing nappy and peeing all over the bed!) and I'm a bit stuck.

I will keep searching and let you know if I find any words of wisdom that might help us both.

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kf1979 · 18/09/2013 11:59

Hi Remote (great name)!

Looks like just us then?!

But yes, that's a good tip and I can ask the playgroup leader to follow suit (it's a drop-off group).

Fingers crossed for both of us! This too shall pass...