Hi
I might have put this on the wrong thread but any advice is appreciated!
My Husband and I have decided to divorce. We have 2 year old twin boys and have decided on shared custody but can't work out how to share the custody.
We both work full time and the twins have had a nanny up until now but as it won't be practical to have a nanny at 2 houses they have started this week at a childminders. My Husband has bought a place near the childminders and I have bought a place 30 mins drive away but I work near the childminders so can go there every day.
One of my twins already has very severe separation anxiety (he's had it for months) and is a bit worse now he has started the childminders as it is a new place for him to get used to. Every time either me or my Husband leaves a room he screams until the other parent can distract him with something else.
What we were going to do is one parent have them Monday, Wednesday Friday and the other Tuesday, Thursday and the weekend and then swap the next week but I'm worried about how this will affect them being shuttled to a different house every night, on top of having to get used to two new houses and a childminder.
Does anyone else do shared custody and how do you do it? We are pretty amicable so communication works fine between us. My Husband is a teacher so he already has the twins every school holiday.
The main issue is we'd like to do 3 days then 4 days as blocks as neither of us wants to be away from the kids for more than 4 days at a time but it doesn't really work as it means the same parent has them every weekend. We'd like ideally alternate weekends (whole weekends rather than saturday with one and sunday with the other).
What do other people do? any suggestions?
Lisa
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willow3006 · 27/08/2013 14:28
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