Ds(4) wont go with dd or gran initially but then changes mind.

[ImNotBloody14]

Dses age 8 and 4 have been staying over with their dad alternate weekends and one weeknight since april. They also visit exps mum every other saturday which has been happening since both were babies. I started work a few months ago and have sometimes required exp or his mum to help me out with childcare. Ds2 has started crying and saying he doesnt want to stay at his dads or grans when gran comes to collect even if gran is taking them to dads ( doesnt do it
with dad). He will whinge and moan and insist he hates his granny! And that he isnt going even with bribes of ice cream or seeing his cousins. Then shortly after she has left he will suddenly say he wants to go and has another meltdown if i say its too late to go now. Its happening nearly every time now and sometimes i have had to cancel work for him then to change his mind and say he will go and i have to drop him out or gran comes back for him.

I was hoping this was just a phase but it has been a few months now and no change. What do i do?

[ImNotBloody14]

Title should say dad or gran

[JustinBsMum]

Well, it seems there is something about Gran's he doesn't like.
Is there anyone else who could step in for a bit to look after him?
Maybe he is just a bit insecure and will prob grow out of it soon.

[ImNotBloody14]

I dont think it's anything to do with gran's house or anyone there- he has been going since he was a baby- every fortnight fir contact- the childcare has been about 3 times in the last 3 months but he still has to go for contact although obviously we dont make him go if he says no- the thing is he changes his mind within half an hour and begs to go. I think its to do with me working as this is the first work he will be aware of me doing- the last was when he was smaller.

[JustinBsMum]

Yes, maybe he is unsettled until he gets used to the idea.