DD has just turned 3. We've tried toilet training on a couple of occasions before but it didn't go particularly well so we left it. We've been trying again now for two weeks and I'm concerned that it's just not going anywhere.
She's in 3 different environments during the week. At home with DH and I at weekends, we ask her every 20 minutes or so if she needs to go. Sometimes she'll say no, sometimes yes. If we bring her to the loo she'll happily sit on it but not do anything, and have an accident 5 minutes later. I haven't seen her wee or poo in the loo at all, not once.
With her grandparents (for two days a week), she asks to go every 15 or 20 minutes but again doesn't actually use the loo, just has accidents.
In creche (3 days a week), she doesn't ask to go. She holds everything in for as long as she can, then might wee in her nappy at nap time or ask to go and actually use the loo once but then have accidents for the rest of the afternoon. She has done wees in the loo there apparently but gets through 6-8 pairs of pants and leggings a day.
She's starting to tell us she's tired or she doesn't feel well when we mention the loo. She's fine the rest of the time - this is always a signal that she's not happy with something. She's worried about her accidents and keeps apologising (she's never been given out to for them). Yesterday she told me she doesn't like having accidents but 'sometimes the wee just comes out'.
The creche are worried that holding wee in for so long could be bad for her - she might not go from the time she gets out of her overnight nappy (around 7) till 3pm.
With no improvement in 2 weeks, and DD getting unhappy with it all, I'm inclined to let it go. I know she's 3 but she's always been slow to hit physical milestones (rolled at 11 months, crawled at 13 months, walked at 18 months) and I'm wondering if she's really ready?
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Toilet training not going well
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CrazyOldCatLady · 27/06/2013 15:14
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