DD is nearly 4.5 and has a 19 month old sister. She is tricky, to say the least. Defiant, refuses to do as she is told, kicks off when told no, retaliates when disciplined. Today for example. Was told that she couldn't watch dvd, threw it at me. I put it in the bin. Later on told that she couldn't knock on neighbour's door, cried, shouted, pinched me. Bike in shed for 24 hours. Told me that I was 'naughty' amongst other things. Attempts to engage with her calmly result in her either not listening, changing subject or turning all comments back on us. Quite often she will say 'stop talking' or 'I've had enough of this' etc. I can't really see much of a pattern, although tiredness makes it worse.
Am I missing something here? She just doesn't seem to get it. I often have to ask her multiple times to do simple things (I know this is fairly normal). She is pretty impulsive so that requires constant nagging reining in, but I do try to balance this with lots of positive praise and attention. She seems bright in some ways, but I'd say is operating normally for her age - neither ahead nor behind.
Any comments, observations? We think she might have very mild ADD, but this hasn't been suggested by anyone else. She starts school at the end of the summer, and I'd rather they made their own assessment of her.
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4 year old behaviour, how to improve
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rhetorician · 26/06/2013 16:34
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