when should ds sleep through the night?(39 Posts)
hi, i have a 5 month old loveable ds during the day. by night he turns in to a monster. he started sleeping through the night at 3months and did so for 3 weeks since then hes been waking at least once and rising early (at 5am) surely he should be sleeping all the way through. hes formula fed on hungry baby milk. the health visitor has said he should go in his own room now and not to feed him at night. but that seems a little harsh. am i just being weak? as im back at work am starting to really feel shatterd now.
DD1 went through from about the 4 month mark (with a dream feed at 10/11ish she'd go through to 6.30am, we cut the dream feed gradually around 8/9 months as we felt it was becoming a case of, "well, if you're offering it would be rude not to accept" rather than need - she didn't get bothered by it not happening).
DD2 - seems to be getting close at 14 weeks - I reckon probably another month or so till that night feed goes fully - it's dropped right down in amount and it's got later and later so she's trying to stop it but just not there fully yet (I don't think the summer and light at stupid AM helps either - I think that wakes her slightly and then she feels like she should get a feed and snuggle because she's awake!)
Could it be the 4 month sleep regression's hit a bit late?
My ds slept through after 9 months and dd after 11. The period around 4/5 months seems to get worse for developmental reasons.
It will get better but it is tedious waiting.
Ds1,2 and 3 were all getting on for 2 before they slept through the night. Ds3 2.4 still occasionally wakes up, especially if he's had a nap in the day.
Ds4 has slept through since 8 weeks. He goes at least 8 hours, sometimes 10. They are all different
I think a 5 mth can wake up due to hunger especially if they maybe haven't fed well during the day. My LO sometimes sleeps through but it tends to be when he has fed well at his day feeds. If he has less during the day, he tends to wake about 3 or 4 for 7 oz and he takes it in 5 mins and then quite happily settles back to sleep. He is 5 and a half months.
I don't think he would take his milk if he wasn't hungry?
Trust your instincts and feed your LO if you feel that is what they need.
Good luck x
DS is 2.1 and has never slept through the night.
I agree with the HV actually, I'd put him in his own room. You being next to him could well be disturbing him and giving him an incentive to wake.
Meh, guidelines. I wouldn't get too het up about a month's difference on the guidelines, 5 months, 6 months, what's the difference? I presume you're not smoking or drinking to excess around him, or taking drugs, or sleeping with him on the couch or co-sleeping without a side cot? No? So you're pretty safe from SIDS, I'd say!
I'd also start to offer basic solids (stuff the guidelines on that too. Five months is old enough if he's lost the tongue thrust reflex and if you think he's waking coz he's hungry). Are you doing a dreamfeed (ie a feed at 10.30ish before you go to bed yourself)?
FWIW, both my babies were Baby Whisperer routine babies and had structured daytime naps and feeds established by 2-3 weeks old. yet, they were different in terms of sleeping behaviour:
DD1 was about 3 months when she slept through the night
DD2 was 11 months (was waking up once around 1-2am for a bf from 3 months to 11 months)
Sure he's not too cold/too hot at night? you can check by putting your finger down the back of his neck to see if he feels hot, clammy or cold.
Firstly can we quantify what is meant by 'sleeping through'. I never dream fed my two and they went down at 7, they both woke up starving once in the night (the downing of 8oz by that age being evidence of their hunger!). Dd1 woke up hungry till 9 months, dd2 till 6 months when weaning properly kicked in. Dd1 was less good at taking milk in the day though. My advice is dont mess arpind with weaning, introduce stuff thats filling straight on 6 months. They can eat at that age pretty much anything you do!
If we are saying a five month old should sleep for 11 hours that is nonsense, however.
Lololol my 4.5month twins are waking 5 or 6 times a night EACH. Be grateful. <wanders off in a sleep deprived haze>
Sleeping through for me is going to sleep at 10-11 and waking about 5-6 I'm happy with 8 hours!
DD1 slept for a good while, 7/8pm with a 10pm dream feed until about 6/7 from about your LO's age I think. We hasn't done anything different or new, they just do it when they're ready. 5 months seems very little to be refusing to feed him in the night. When we got to 3 years old and were still having to issue a banana every night at 10pm enough was enough!
When should a baby sleep through the night?
Well I can conclusively say that, according to the unwritten and only whispered rules of babies, round about the one night you've got a cold/mind full of decisions to make/party next door and this cannot take advantage of the blissful nights sleep.
You will then be sentenced to weeks of forensically analysing what you did that day and night and repeating it ad infinitum in case it gives you another one of those nights.
Babies are sneaky!!
Or the alternative answer of five months is so little. People will promise you results if you follow a routine/don't follow a routine/dance naked by midnight. But each baby is different.
In a blink of an eye your son will be hanging around on street corners and mumbling one word answers to you and you will long for the days when he woke in the night and really needed you, whether it was for food or cuddles or any reason.
It's your choice what you do but I'd try not to stress too much about it
I think you'd probably be fairly lucky to get an unweaned baby to go 10-12 hours without milk.
By 9 months most can go through the night without milk if they're feeding/eating enough in the day.
Going through the night without a feed is NOT the same as going through the night without needing any attention though!
Ds4 has slept at least 8 hours a night from 8 weeks old and the only differences compared to his brothers are he has never slept for long periods in the day, not even as a newborn and he is breastfed.
I think it's just luck, although I did say I was due a good sleeper!
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