I'm not sure why I've even name changed for this. I talk about DS quite a bit here; feel an odd need to protect him. Long, sorry!
DS is 2.3. Has always been a bright, happy boy, no concerns. However recently (over the last 6 months) I've noticed that he's exhibiting some behaviour that none of his peers seem to be. That may just be his personality in which case, great, if a bit odd but I'm slightly worried it could be something more.
First off, should say that he does smile, can be affectionate if cajoled for a bit and talks a lot. But:
- Dislikes other children. Will tolerate those at nursery but doesn't make eye contact and prefers to be in a corner, doing his own thing. If children try to play with him in the playground he will either run behind my legs, or mutter, "no" leading to a crescendo and eventually nervous squeaking. He will grudgingly share items/space if told that 'it's the rule' to do that. He's a lot better with adults.
- Loves rules. Will tell other people off, loudly, for not following rules i.e. crossing the road before the green man appears, or not using oven gloves, etc. I guess this links in with him being controlling, which he is.
- Loves being clean. If he gets his hands messy he will be distressed and hold them out to be cleaned, and won't calm down until they are definitely, definitely spotless.
- Sits very, very close to the TV and plays with things about 2cm from his face. Only really plays with things with wheels (trucks, vans, cars, buses, airplanes as long as they have wheels, taxis, trains) - loves the wheels.
- Very self-sufficient. I sometimes think if I disappeared for 24 hours he'd be absolutely fine. He doesn't cry when he falls over, amuses himself until you actively come along and hates having things done for him.
- Bizarrely good memory. He has memorized lots of words, and I think has memorized the look of letters and the phonics (which they teach at nursery), and can now read new words. Generally his memory is oddly good.
All this does sound PFB when I read it back. On the surface he is just a bright, extremely obedient little boy. I just look at other kids running around having fun, and he doesn't do that. He watches, and backs away when they come towards him, I worry.
We took him to a fair yesterday and it took him 45 minutes of examination of the carousel and looking at each horse individually (there must have been some sort of selection criteria, who knows), and mild panic and whimper of "Oh dear!" before he got on for a ride. He then refused to come off for 45 minutes. Is this normal?