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Do parents stay at toddler parties?

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Coffee1Sugar Mon 29-Apr-13 19:38:52

Dd is nearly 3 and planning her party in my garden. Will the parents stay? Likewise am j expected to stay when she attends her friends parties? I don't know the parents as I sent invites via nursery

hazeyjane Mon 29-Apr-13 19:44:39

When my dds were 3 I would have expected to stay.

LunaticFringe Mon 29-Apr-13 19:48:19

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Hulababy Mon 29-Apr-13 19:50:37

IME yes, parents stay.

It was part way through foundation/reception when most parents started to leave children at parties. They often stay at the first few at the start of the school year as they don't know the parents at all. If parties are at places like soft play parents often stay too, even when children are older - pRTLY AS PARENTS HAVE OFTEN HAD TO TRAVEL FURTHER TO GET THERE AND ALSO THE FACT THAT THEY ARE SO BIG.

Hulababy Mon 29-Apr-13 19:50:46

Ooops - sorry for caps

motherinferior Mon 29-Apr-13 19:51:57

Yes. Provide booze. Cheap fizz and crispssmile

Coffee1Sugar Mon 29-Apr-13 19:52:15

Oo ok thanks! Thought so! Must make sure I have grown up food then grin

motherinferior Mon 29-Apr-13 19:53:21

It's a nice way to meet people. Let's face it, most parents of small children don't get out muchgrin

Beatrixpotty Mon 29-Apr-13 19:53:48

Definitely stay,you will want them around especially if in your house,there may be tantrums,squabbling over toys,toilet issues etc etc.It's also nice to meet the parents of the children that yours play with.

motherinferior Mon 29-Apr-13 19:54:29

A glass of cava and they'll love you!

Tee2072 Mon 29-Apr-13 19:54:44

I would definitely stay at 3. Probably will until 5ish.

LunaticFringe Mon 29-Apr-13 19:56:40

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Hulababy Mon 29-Apr-13 19:58:04

Glass of wine, or a chilled lager, and some nibbles is all you need.

MyThumbsHaveGoneWeird Mon 29-Apr-13 20:13:17

Depending on the time of day though hulababy! I once went to a 3 hour toddler party at 9am on a Saturday morning. I would have loved them forever if they had provided coffee (they didn't). Now cava and coffee... grin

Coffee1Sugar Mon 29-Apr-13 21:57:04


My dd's is 1-3.30pm with a 2hr entertainer so I'm hoping I can kind of sit back and natter to the parents and supervise food/drink. Too optimistic?! I'm a teacher of 30 nine/ten year olds, 15 toddlers is beyond me!

Fuckwittery Mon 29-Apr-13 22:00:16

Blimey, 15 children! I would send little reminder notes to those who don't RSVP if you don't know them, to say that the parents are welcome to stay, there will be adult food, and you hope it will be a nice way to meet some of the other nursery parents.

I hope this doesn't happen, but in my experience, if you don't know the parents, they often do not bother to RSVP or turn up! You may need to be prepared to chase, and also I think you should make clear that parents are welcome to stay, as some might be anxious about RSVP-ing an acceptance as they are worried that their children are too young to be left but are not sure if its OK to stay.

You could also ask the nursery to put a notice up about the party, e.g. those children invited to little X's party, parents welcome too, please respond etc, if you never see the other parents?

spottyparrot Mon 29-Apr-13 22:01:57

I would not consider leaving a toddler at a garden party. Parents should definitely stay IMO.

Coffee1Sugar Mon 29-Apr-13 22:10:24

Good thinking! I said RSVP by 11th may and so far got 9 kiddies including dd smile

Hulababy Tue 30-Apr-13 13:06:08

9am party!!!!! Sounds hell, lol

Coffee1Sugar Sat 04-May-13 18:02:47

Well dd and I went to the first of endless nursery 3rd birthdays today. My God, this mum went massively OTT. Each child got a £5 book and tshirt for "party bags", 1.5 hours private hire of a softplay and full on sit down kids dinner for 15kids. I can't compete with that sad. I've got 12kids in my garden with a kids entertainer and M&S party food sad

Sanjifair Sat 04-May-13 18:20:06

Coffee, she probably got the £5 book from the book people at £1 a shot...
Probably something similar for the t-shirt. Your party sounds fab. I went to a 3 yr old's party the other day, there were quite a few couples there so don't assume it'll be just one parent staying, it could be 2.

meglet Sat 04-May-13 18:25:30

coffee it really doesn't matter_ how much the other parent spent, the kids won't realise and the parents won't care.

And she probably did get the books from the book people, that's quite normal. They work out quite cheap if you split a pack of books.

M&S party food sounds miles better than soft play party food, which IME is bad chips and chicken nuggets.

Beatrixpotty Sat 04-May-13 21:01:27

coffee please don't worry.DS1 would have loved a party in the garden with M&S food when 3,never mind the entertainer.Most of the ones I've been to just had pass the parcel with frequent stops and sweets in every layer.Just come back from a nursery 4th bday party today and the party bag contained bubbles,a piece of cake & pick & mix,he loved it!

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