So, I have 3 children, ds1 aged 7, and twins ds2 and 3 who are nearly 3.
I have been through the not wanting to get dressed, or in the car seat stage with ds1 a few years ago, but at the moment ds2 is being especially hard work and I'm struggling to cope. Yesterday we had a meltdown over shoes, then I let him watch his dad do something before gettting him in the car and then there was an almighty battle because his dt brother had already got into the car, in the carseat that HE wanted. I ended up having to walk away because I was getting so wound up, and then manhandled him into the seat, which meant tears all round.
This morning, all was going well until it was time to get dressed for nursery and he didn't want jeans, socks or shoes on. In the end I had to just get on with it, but it felt wrong to me to be basically forcing him into the clothes because I'm bigger then him. He was got upset by it and took his shoes and socks off while I dressed his dt brother, who thankfully was being as good as gold (this time, anyway!). We then had a cuddle and the shoes and socks went back on without issue.
My feeling is that it is a stage where he is pushing boundaries and I have to stand firm, but I hate that it is so stressy and tearful, and that I am finding it difficult to stay calm when I'm in the middle of it. I try not to shout (they are still so very young), but it does happen, which it never did with my eldest. Please try not to judge me, it is far harder with twins than I could have imagined (and I thought the early weeks were hard, I clearly knew nothing!!!)
Do you have any coping tips for this stage with a nearly 3 year old? Apart from these episodes, he is the most cuddly child I have, this seems almost out of character for him. Any advice would be very welcome.
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Daily battles with nearly 3 year old, I'm at the end of my tether, please help!
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RosinaCopper · 10/04/2013 09:35
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