I'm at a loss with what to try with my emotionally sensitive but otherwise confident & bossy 5yo DD.
Her class teacher commented at parents evening recently that she needs to be less emotional (read not fly off the handle into a sobbing screaming mess) when told off or when a game / role play isn't going as she wants. A playdate today ended with a complete meltdown because her friend made a "I'm going to tell my mum what you said" comment over something genuinely trivial. She came running downstairs sobbing "I've said I'm sorry ..." She was completely uncontrollable for about 10 minutes and understandably her friend was dumbstruck.
If she accidentally hurts her brother (2.11) it takes several minutes to work out what's going on & who's hurt because they're usually both screaming. Poor DS who usually just needs a bump kissing better so he can get on with his play gets all attention deflected away from him while I try to establish why she's screaming too. I think it's because she's afraid of being told off, she's generally a very caring girl and would hate to hurt anyone.
I have issues with how bossy she is with friends but more visibly to me with her little brother. She can be very unempathetic and bad at sharing, not necessarily with physical objects but with the games played, who gets to play which parts in the role play etc.
She's also very dramatic with minor injuries & scrapes ... papercuts, stubbed toes etc. all result in tears and dramatics.
I'm planning to try a sticker chart to praise her for playing nicely with her brother / friends and listening to their choices, sharing etc. I feel I can guide her with this issue. But how can I calm her down? Can anyone offer any advice on how to get her to be calmer with her emotions? I've seen "the highly sensitive child" book mentioned on a few threads but is this more for shy children? She certainly isn't that.
Thanks all!
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Confident 5 yo DD overly emotional
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millingtonsmummy · 09/04/2013 22:31
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