Moving 10 week old upstairs - how?

[PeggyL]

My 10 week old DD stays in lounge with me until i go to bed but I'd like to move her upstairs to our room. She's fed at 7 & 10pm but naturally falls asleep around 8:30 so should i feed downstairs at 7 then take up at 8:30 then wake at 10?! Feeling quite confused on timings & then to move her up - can't remember what i did with ds?!

[flubba]

Yes, feed her at 7 (or push it a little later if you can), then take her upstairs shortly after her feed for her to fall asleep upstairs on her own (or so the theory goes!).

Does she wake for the 10pm feed or do you wake her? You could try the dream feed so she doesn't properly wake up.

[MummyNoName]

What flubs said but I'd feed upstairs in the dark in the bedroom.

[Flisspaps]

What welovegrapes said.

And it doesn't matter if you have a monitor to listen to your baby with from upstairs - your baby needs to hear you.

[flubba]

Oh I didn't know the new SIDS advice (my youngest is 2 now). Ignore me then.

[Flisspaps]

flubba it was the same advice when my 3yo was a baby!

[flubba]

Okay. You've made me feel bad.

[Flisspaps]

Don't feel bad - that wasn't my intention. The advice may well have been different when your older kids were babies -

[Flisspaps]

• but not 3 years ago.

I only mentioned it because people often say 'oh, the advice changes all the time so do what you want as it'll all change next week' but it doesn't!

[flubba]

(I think it was the exclamation mark that did that )

Possibly. (I'm too scared to say how old my oldest is now - but certainly this thread is the first time I'd read that they were supposed to be with you at all times when asleep)

[forevergreek]

Until 6 months the current guildlines is to sleep with you. So your room when your in there, downstairs when your down there

[Purplecatti]

Well my LO hasn't read the latest guidelines and we began establishing a bedtime at 8 weeks as she would scream with over tiredness. Lights, telly, the light for my kindle were all sleep distractions and fuel to the flame. She would scream from 8 til midnight. So at first grumps or yawn past half 6 it was bath, feed in our quiet very dark bedroom and bed. And I'm not about to sit in a dark room for the three hours it takes for her next feed and my bedtime. I want time to watch the telly with OH and have a happy baby who doesn't get overstimulated and furious

[Startail]

The latest guidelines are about as practical as a chocolate fire guard and less BFing friendly.

At least you can eat chocolate.

[DangerMousey]

I think like all guidelines/advice, the SIDS guidelines/advice are just that: advice. They are not mandatory and as long as the OP is aware that they exist, basically it's up to her to make all the decisions about how to raise her children.

Since DS was born 15 weeks ago I have taken a number of decisions which are contrary to the current SIDS advice (DS sleeping in his own room from 6 weeks, putting DS 'to bed' in the early evening - around 7pm-8pm - from about 10 weeks cos he was getting tired and I thought letting him 'nap' in the living room when he was clearly trying to tell me it was his bedtime, was nonsensical)....I don't regret any of these decisions, they were the right ones for him and for our family. I took them in full knowledge of what the SIDS advice is, but it was not in any way working for us to live according to those rules! and i figure it's not like I am blowing cigarette smoke in his little face or anything

To answer your question OP, if you would like your DC to start spending the early evenings in her crib, rather than in the lounge, I would recommend feeding at 7 (or a little later if you can) and then putting down to sleep shortly afterwards. Then feed in the dark quiet bedroom at 10pm. Even if she is waking for that feed now, I reckon within a couple of weeks she will naturally start to stretch her feeds a bit and then you can do the 10pm feed as a 'dream feed' where you gently get her out of the crib, feed her, burp her, and put her back down, without her really waking up :-)

My DS sorted out that 'early' part of the night first, and would sleep v well between 8pm - 2am (with a dream feed at 10pm), and he then gradually got better at sleeping in the early hours of the morning too....he now pretty much sleeps through the night, and doesn't feed at night at all although he has been awake since 0545 this morning, the little tinker!

[Bucklander]

I was doing exactly as you are now until 3 weeks ago when my DS was 14 weeks. I would suggest that if he is wanting more at 10 then give him a slightly larger feed in the afternoon which should take him through to 8ish, although if yours is anything like mine he tends to cluster feed on the run up to bedtime!! I would feed him upstairs and then put him to bed, it is working for us perfectly and he is sleeping through until 6am! I appreciate the guidelines on SIDS and believe me its enough of a worry but to my mind if it's going to happen then its going to happy (harsh I know) but you would never sleep at all if you were to worry about every little thing!! As long as you are doing everything else you can to reduce the risk of SIDS and check on him regularly once he is in bed then you should be a happy family. Also, if you don't set a bedtime routine now then you could be making a rod for your own back......that was my driver!

[stargirl1701]

We kept DD downstairs with us till 11pm for the first 5 months. For the last few weeks before she was 6 months we took night about upstairs and sat with her. We watched iPlayer on iPads. We just didn't want to risk it. She was ff so more at risk than a bf baby.