Hello everybody, I've been reading this site for about 1.5 years now but have never needed to ask anything but I am desperate for some help as my gp is useless and I feel like I'm doing this whole mum thing wrog and damaging my son,so here goes, I apologise in advance for the length but if you have any advice on any of the issues please please drop me a comment :(
My DS recently turned 2. I have three problems, the first:He does not have any words at all apart from 'hiya' which is used in any and all contexts. If I show him an object, repeat the word ect he will try to copy but only the syllables using a 'gur' sound so for instance getting him to say dog is 'gur' while asking him to say banana would result in 'gurgurgur'
I'm a SAHM and I spend all day doing countless activities with him, we go out, i try to read to him often but he doesn't pay attention. He doesn't seem to pick anything up and can't even request basic things like juice, up ect by words or pointing.
My second problem is:He only eats toast, cereal, crisps, chips,biscuits, raisins, squeezy yoghurt and nuts. Any mushy/soft food he just smushes into the table or ignores and I worry that he is hungry because obviously I can't give him much of a healthy diet when he just leaves what I give. when I put food down he will play with it and cry but I do not give in and if he doesn't eat what's there i just take it away and he leaves the table.
My third problem is probably a result of the above two as for most of the day my son screams, cries and throws things. He will happily play alone for hours but then suddenly if a shape won't fit ect he just melts down and even if I try to help he just pushes me away. Sometimes he tantrums for no reason but he can't tell me what is the matter.
I'm at the end of my tether with the screaming and crying and so are my neighbours who are now slamming doors and deliberately being loud to 'pay me back'
My husband works from 5am to 6pm mon-fri and does the bed routine. On weekends he helps out a lot but we are both so lost with this.
My mum passed away recently and his parents are of the " smack them and put them to bed" type which may be some parents do but I want to be able to help my son learn how to tell me what is upsetting him, not make him feel naughty for being frustrated if it is something that I am doing wrong bringing him up. there is nowhere else for me to turn as all my gp says is " boys are slow" but that can't be the sole reason as other toddlers his age seem to be speaking and pointing and eating proper food so I feel like the worlds worst mummy at this point and I am embarrassed to send my son to nursery for a few hours a week to play with the children,in case they think the same
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Bunraku · 13/03/2013 15:36
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