I have a wonderful DD who has just turned 3. A year ago I had twin boys, who are amazing, but since their arrival DD has developed a very rough streak.
From when the boys were born for about 6 months there wasn't a day that went by without one or other of them getting bitten/scratched/hit/pushed/squashed. DD loved them to bits, but obviously found it very hard adjusting to these new people and to me being unavailable.
Things quietened down and she stopped being so rough and we had a lovely few months. Huge sigh of relief.
Fast forward to January and the behaviour has started again. I have started working 2 days a week and we've employed a nanny, the boys are also much much more mobile. All this has meant DD is getting very frustrated with her brothers in her space, me not being there all the time etc etc. The past two days have been awful: both boys have gashes under their eyes where their sister has scratched them.
I have tried time outs: very hard to make work with 3 tiny children, but when I do do them DD doesn't really get what they're about and does the whole "I'm sorry" thing, but with no real meaning
I have tried giving her time with just me. Great when it's happening, makes no difference when the moment takes her.
I have tried ignoring. Very hard as I feel so emotional about it, but possibly the most successful in that at least the situation doesn't escalate.
The only thing I can think of to stop it happening ever again is to raise them in separate rooms, but that's obviously total crap. They all love each other so much and have so much fun together, but then this look comes into her eyes and it's like a red mist. Then afterwards it's as if nothing's happened. Some days I wonder if there is something the matter with her, it's as if she's programmed to fight in every threatening situation, but it's almost without emotion...
She is VERY vocal and bright. Any help, books to read, sympathy is greatly appreciated.
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rednellie · 05/03/2013 10:45
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