2 year old keeps hitting 1 year old sister

[leeanne6385]

hi all i have 4 kids a 9 year old 4 year old 2 year old and 1 year old and my prob is my 2 year old such a bully to my 1 year old he shoves her hits her pulls her hair slaps her and does not let her play with anything even her toys he just shoves her !! i have used time out but it does not work with him he laughs dont say sorry and just hits everyone or screams so loud i realy dont no what to do

[Iggly]

Every single time he does it, move him out of the room instantly. No shouting, just a firm no hitting. Keep repeating. Keep the attention to a minimum.

Also try giving him positive attention as I bet he's jealous.

[leeanne6385]

he gets plenty positive attention n he constantly on time out but just no work

[Iggly]

To play devils advocate - if he's always in time out how does he get positive attention?

Do you show him how he should play with his sister? So if he goes to hit, move her out of the way and tell him what to do. When I said move every time - I didn't mean time out, just move him as he's a bit young for time out anyway.

Try some special time with just him. Reading a story, playing with his toys - something like that.

[leeanne6385]

he not to young for time out at all ! and i pay with him read play hisvtrains he not ignored everytime he hits i put him on time out to try teach him it wrong yes he knows how to play nice as sometimes he nice with her he can talk but rather than talk he prefers to scream loud i cantvdevote all my time to him as iv 3 other children

[mysweetie]

Yap, that really is hard. I guess when he is in time out, don't smile at him or make a move so he will not smile and make him know that you are not happy of what he did. Be serious when he is being disciplined.

[Iggly]

I mean he won't understand time out. Taking him away quickly yes but expecting him to sit and feel remorse - maybe once he's 3.

You can give him 5-10 minutes surely? He will be getting negative attention so why not switch to more positive.

[leeanne6385]

iggly i give him more than 10 mins attention i sit n play praise him when he good he just so much energy n although he can talk he prefer to just scream

[Iggly]

Can you get him out more then? My 2 year old went through a hitting phase and time out etc didn't work. I would remove him as soon as he did it and ignore him. Also trying more positive attention - so showing him how to play with his younger sister. And if he screamed I'd ask him to talk. A mix of cuddling when he got frustrated and upset as well as removal seemed to work. When we get into a negative cycle of telling him off it gets worse.