its not all the time but her fuse is short and she acts inappropriatley - then tries to strangle herself with her hands - even though we tell her its really not possible - and when that fails she pulls her own hair, or is destructive toward property in the house - its only recently disintegrated to this point.she never does this in public or at school - she has always been the drama queen and door slammer and foot stair stomper when she gets angry at home - which we usually ignore. she obviously feels secure enough to act THIS inapropriatley at home. the trigger today was when she asked dh when i was comming home, dh playing the smart arse and trying to do the funnies said "its private information" she stair stomped all the way up and when dh told her to come back down to ask what was going on she threw a total shit fit and dh sat her on a chair in the dining room near the wall and told her to calm down. she threw the chair, sat on the floor, faced the wall and scratched out in the wallpaper " i hate dad"
needless to say when i walked in dh showed me the wall and DD ended up having a half hour lecture which included issues such as respect and thoughfulness and graciousness. i told her to think of the nice things dad does - how dad walks from work to pick them up from school every day in every weather without his bosses permission( or knowledge) walks them home. i asked her to think of any other family who has picnics on the dining room floor on a sheet without the mum having the hoover out becuase of the crumb crisis, i aksed her to think of the kids at school who dont see theri dads or only see them weekends and would be so happy to have a dad around all the time. i asked her to think of a family who ALL go out on bike rides - or walk the dog on the beach......................needless to say i went on for ages. - they know they shouldnt get me started i turn into a strange combination - an angry liberal!
any way
ideas anyone?
who should i contact becuase i am not asking for parenting skills so much as i am worried about why she has this fierce temper. i have no trouble dealing with her when it happens and am not stressed - just a bit pissed of that my wallpapers fecked. am just worried about her
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10 year old 's worrying temper
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Tortington · 16/01/2004 01:05
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