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Talk to others about child development and behaviour stages here. You can find more information on our development calendar.

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Behaviour/development

Do your 12 month olds whinge and cry a lot?

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WhingyBum · 16/01/2013 12:25

Just wondering if all one year olds whine? I am sure they do but with DS2 it seems extreme! I am walking on egg shells with him because he whinges and cries pretty much every 10 minutes. He's been a pretty high maintenance, grumpy little fella since birth. I have tried cranial osteopathy, dairy free and reflux medication but the paediatrician seems at a loss. I am now getting "babies cry a lot, he'll grow out of it". I understand. I can deal with it, if I know it will end at some point! DS1 was nothing like this at this age but he was walking so perhaps less frustrated. HELP!

He naps well (2 one hour naps every day, 12 hour night time). He feeds fairly well. So what is the problem? He is whinging and crying even when I am talking, playing, out in the pushchair, all the time.

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SuperDuperTrooper · 16/01/2013 13:03

Sorry if I'm stating the obvious but could he be teething? My one year old recently went through a really temperamental phase where I too felt I a walking on eggshells. I honestly felt like the terrible twos had started early. Then 2 teeth popped through! Even though he is more vocal and easier to complain these days he has since calmed down dramatically!

WhingyBum · 16/01/2013 13:41

Thank you for your response :-) Mmmm he is definitely worse when he's teething, really really touchy and cries for longer periods but to be honest he is grizzly and grumpy so much that it makes me wonder if it is just his personality. It's just very sad to see him so upset and whingy all the time. I feel like I should understand him better by now (I THINK I did with DS1 but may be looking back with rose tinted glasses on that!). I just keep hoping he'll grow out of his miserable behaviour but he's always just been so much hard work.

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WhingyBum · 16/01/2013 19:26

Bump!!!

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IWantToGoToThere · 16/01/2013 19:43

Hi, I had one of those and I'm afraid to say that I still do! He's now 3!!

I tried everything under the sun but my DS was just a grump and even now he's very temperamental. Things that won't phase him one moment will send him into a real spin the next. Walking on eggshells sounds very familiar.

I'm afraid I can't offer much in the way of advice - I kept waiting for him to roll over, walk, talk etc to see if that was the problem, but ultimately, he's just a high maintenance kid.

I'm 37 weeks pregnant with my second, so I'm desperately hoping this one will be more chilled. Hang in there. I hear they move out eventually.

WhingyBum · 16/01/2013 19:52

Ohhh nooooo! My worst fears have been realised with your post IWantogoThere !!!

Well to be honest DS1 was a bloody miserable baby until he could walk so I keep pinning my hopes that when he does get moving properly he'll lighten up a bit but I fear I may be clutching at staws with that.

How on earth can I fill the day and get through it without dreading the next day? Any tips?

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WhingyBum · 16/01/2013 19:54

Oh and IWantToGoThere Good luck with number 2 :-) They say you never get two babies alike so you never know, this one could be an angel . Do you know if it's a boy or girl?

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IWantToGoToThere · 17/01/2013 10:00

Hi whingy, it's another little boy for us which I'm very excited about and think DS1 will deal with a bit better. This is our last though, so am really hoping for a chilled out child this time around (otherwise I will have to assume that we're just really crap parents!)

I hope your DS2 starts lightening up soon and things get easier for you. I know how utterly demoralising it can be to have an unhappy, grumpy child when all those around you seem so compliant and easy going.

BlablaSos · 17/01/2013 10:45

Yes! Walking on egg shells is exactly how I described it at that age. By 13 months she was walking and things improved. My dd also seemed much happier when we were out of the house, although not so easy with this weather.

SuperDuperTrooper · 17/01/2013 11:13

Hi Whingy. I'm back to say the whining has started up again! I've got a headache!

I wanttogothere you are certainly braver than me. Having a high needs baby is steadily convincing me never to have another! Good luck and hope that he is a chilled out little fella.

WhingyBum · 17/01/2013 20:00

Thank you for all the responses. Congratulations on DC2 IWantToGoThere DS2 is our last too and I always saw myself with little boys but I so wanted desperately to enjoy it this time but I have found the strain the whinging and crying has caused is absolutely horrendous. Thankfully DS1 has been amazing about it and is very adaptable, never complains or seems to show any resentment towards his brother. Hopefully your DS2 will be one of those happy babies you see on the adverts! :-)

SuperduperTrooper Sorry to hear the whinging has started up at your end. Hopefully it's just teething again and won't last for long!

BablaSos that is reassuring that things improved once she was walking. DS2 seems no where near yet though, not even cruising, just crawling and wobbling when standing up! Ahhhhh deep breaths!

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MillionPramMiles · 18/01/2013 11:14

Hi just to say, another high needs whinger here, 8 months old so desperately hoping it gets better at some point. And definitely not having another!

Superduper: have just taken a couple of nurofen, know how you feel...

WhingyBum · 18/01/2013 13:27

Oh dear MillionPramMiles I know what you mean. I keep hoping it gets better, I keep waiting for the magic turning point when he stops crying and moaning. It just doesn't seem to be happening. I went shopping with my friendand her baby girl earlier, only a 15 minute walk to the shops, 20 minutes wandering round the shops to get some new vests for him, then home again but it was too much for DS2 who went into meltdown in the pushchair on the way home despite being warm, wrapped, up, talked to, offering him food, toys etc. He just seems to get peed off very easily no matter where we are or what we're doing yet staying at home with him is worse cos the whiging is relentless.

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WhingyBum · 18/01/2013 13:28

Ohh and the worst bit is (I feel bad for saying this) but my friend's little baby was just so good and looked around, smiling etc, I just feel like such a failure!

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notnow2 · 19/01/2013 08:28

Unfortunately my 15 month old is like this. She walks around the house crying a lot - not sure what is wrong. Struggles if you cuddle her - talks out her baby language and I think she is frustrated she can't talk. Doesn't like toys or sitting still. Luckily she enjoys walks in the buggy as we spend most of day on preschool and school run. I found with my other dc is get better approaching age 2 although ds2 is still a bit high needs at 3.8!!

Mum2DS1andDS2 · 19/01/2013 12:40

Ohh my 1 year old DS2 is terrible for this. He's always been a bit of a crier, lots of cuddles, toys and distraction needed.

Never seem to find out what's bothering him despite trips to doctors and dairy free. He's not inconsolable often, just whines and cries avery few minutes.

I seem to remember DS1 improving a lot once he got talking well but I remember I didn't enjoy his company much til he was over 2 .

It's just such hard work especially with having 2. Keeping the older one from having his life put on hold is very stressful.

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