I'm not name changing for this because im certain i will still get called all sorts despite being a long standing poster. Ive posted in response to other threads about this over the years but i'm honestly at the end of my rope with this and i could cry. This is my first proper thread at needing hardcore parenting advice. Be kind.
At around 18 months dd1 had a fisher price bounce and spin zebra. She bounced on it constantly and at around 2 we quickly deduced that she must have got a pleasurable sensation from it (not sexual before im jumped upon) and we couldnt keep her off it. We took it away as it was all she would gravitate to. She then discovered that she could mount corners of chairs/tables etc and evidently get the same sensation.
Shes now 4 and every time shes alone she's still doing it. I could cry. Truly. I've tried everything. Shes old enough to understand and tells me it feels nice on her "foo foo". We've told her bottoms and foo-foo's are private and we dont want to see. Ive tried shouting, asking her to go to her room, taking toys away, reward for not doing it (which is tricky as she waits to be alone).
I've got a thousand feelings about this. Its my own fears and hang ups that get me so wound up. Firstly i dont really want to witness it. I know its innocent, she fets a sensation so seeks it out. But i dont want her doing it in the middle of the lounge. Shes broken three tables from it. She often gets sore and then i get petrified. I panic someone will think she's been abused. I panic that i'll give her a complex about masturbation as she gets older.
When she hit 4 nursery joked that this is the age they find every orrafice. So i asked their advice. They said its normal and more common in girls than you think. I had a social worker here (referee for adoptors) and i even asked her. She agreed it was normal.
I just dont know what to do. She shows no signs of stopping and although she understands your body is private etc she cant link her behaviour to that and i dont want to sexualise it.
Thank you if you got this far. Please please can anyone advise me?
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Tinkerisdead · 11/01/2013 17:13
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