I really think my kids are spoilt, in fact I know they are, as their behaviour is simply awful 75% of the time, and I really need to crack down on it. DD1 is nearly 14; she won't lift a finger to help in the house, her room is a state, she speaks disrespectfully to us all, and is never happy. DD2, 8, also won't lift a finger in the house, gets in terrible sulky moods, and again is never happy. DS is 3 and I'd say he is the best behaved of all 3; a typical 3 year old but I am being so careful with him to implement boundaries and not let him have his own way.
The two eldest both have this constant look on their faces like they are about to cry, unless they're doing something that they 100% want to do. For example if we go into town and DD1 wants to go in primark, but I need to go to the bank, she'll do a squealy whine and pull this face like she's going to cry. DD2 is the same when she isn't doing what she wants to do. DD2 gets in moods that last for days and days, and both girls just wind each other up constantly. They also do the 'I'm going to cry face' if they are asked to do anything in the house, even turn a light off that they have turned on, and they sometimes do a squealy cry too. Also they both are so fussy and just pull their 'face' at anything that isn't junk food, and then start trying to raid the cupboard and fridge for snacks.
To give an example of their behaviour recently; at nearly 14 I tell DD1 she needs to get her things ready for school the night before. This morning she hadn't bothered doing that last night, and so had a screaming tantrum at me early this morning, whilst I was still in bed, as she couldn't find an ironed shirt (she is meant to iron them herself the night before but 9 times out of 10 won't do it). She cries at everything.
Also we had a weekend away last weekend, somewhere really lovely where the kids love going and their behaviour all weekend was atrocious. DD2 was in a foul mood, and was rude, un co-operative and kept hitting her sister, and DD1 was moody unless we were doing anything she had chosen to do. Other children seem so enthusiastic about things but mine are just never happy.
The weekend is the final straw for me; I realise we really need to sort their behaviour out. First thing I'm going to do is cut their lifestyles back to basics; no clubs, friends to play, treats, treat foods etc until they are toe-ing the line a bit more. Has anyone else got any suggestions? What else can I do?
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I think my kids are spoilt! Help!
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MrsMangelfanciedPaulRobinson · 11/12/2012 09:14
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