No pointing! Worried mum seeking advice(64 Posts)
Dont feel embarrased about being sensitive and yes it is likely that he takes after you. He is your baby, bless him.
Separation anxiety is common in little ones too but the fact that he has bonded with your new nanny is great.
I wonder if your old nanny couldnt bond with him for some reason and decided to blame him instead of looking at her own strategies.
It has been known
Hi welove, I have just read your thread. I have Dd3 who has ASD so I know a bit about it and I wanted to say that your little one sounds lovely. He may turn out to be quirky as he has a fair amount of quirkiness in his genes by the sound of it but that is fine. Quirky kids are ace and they are what makes the world what it is.
It is only if quirkiness starts to become a problem eg, not socialising, being very anxious or overly obsessive, that you need to act to make sure your son has support if he needs it.
For now, I think you should sit back and enjoy him. If in 6 months you are still worried, then maybe go to your GP and discuss your concerns.
Sounds like it to me! I think imaginative play to me is making up a whole story with dolls. I probably missed the first signs entirely then with Dd1 . To be honest I think most of the time ignorance is bliss!!!
My second didn't point at this age either. I posted on here about it. He was fine. He's 5 now, and incredibly clever (ok, I am his mum, I'd say that - but I'm being honest!) and a bit OCD I think, it does run in our family, but he's steaming ahead academically, if you can call it that - ie I can read his writing and still struggle to read ds1's, who is 9...
in short it can indicate a problem but doesn't always. Short of other flags I'd not be too concerned.
I honestly can't remember when dd started imaginative play but it wasn't at 18 months. I think a lot of this stuff online is constructed via mummy imagination tbh.
18 months is surely very young for imaginative play? I clicked on this because googling pointing innocently (I just wondered when they started doing it without knowing its significance) made me worry about my seemingly 12 month old note to self never google anything. She now seems to be pointing with her thumb..... very strange!
Also my nearly 4 year old hated loud noises until about 3 I think that's normal, she certainly shows no signs of ASD. They all seem to run away from the loud hand dryer at our local soft play
It sounds to me like you two communicate really well with each other. You are both sensitive souls and you're very attuned to his needs. Mine had a very large number of words (stealth boast anyone?) before she got round to "water" or "pasta", which I thought was funny, but my mum suggested was down to me being so good at second guessing her needs that she didn't need to bother with useful words. Could something similar be going on here?
Welove I think you need to hang on to the fact that you didn't have any concerns yourself. Your own instincts are usually a really good indicator of whether your child has a problem.
You've had a bit of a heads up about a small possibility. In all likelihood it will come to nothing. If he does have problem,s later on you will know where to start which puts you one step ahead of many parents.
Lots of children want to be carried a lot. Your DS is lucky that you are happy to do attachment type parenting.
You're doing everything right to give a sensitive child the best start in life. Try not to let someone else's
pretty flimsy concerns about his possible future development spoil this precious time for you.
I think there is a problem with your former nanny, not your son! Would you have had any concerns at all if she hadn't said anything?
If your worried, keep a diary for a few weeks, keeping track of his social skills ect.
It will either confirm that you think his fine, or give you something to discuss with Hv.
It's not about the pointing but more to do with shared interested, so he would point to show you something, which he is doing by physically bringing you things.
Both my girls have Asd and before they were two it was clear. They hated being carried in slings, that was way too close.
He is very young.....he's not even two. I think you should chill out and enjoy him. If by the time he's two, he's not bringing toys to show you and you're still concerned, then speak to the HV or GP. What exactly did the Nanny say?
I worried about the same thing - and two weeks after he turned 17 months he very clearly pointed (had shrugged his hand in directions for things) and that was it...
And 17 months is too young for imaginative play
And lots of babies need time to settle in new places and are sensitive to noise
Problem is once you worry about one thing, it makes you scrutinise everything else - whereas he sounds like he's doing v well developmentally
They do it went they're ready - such a cliche but because its true - and you can be encouraging as you want but it doesn't change that. Plus if the encouragement is driven by anxiety it becomes a pressure for them, I think.
Try to thought stop, if you can. It's really exhausting, if nothing else
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