My DS is 1 and an absolute joy in lots of ways, very sociable, not clingy blah blah blah But he has always been really strong willed. And now that is manifesting itself in extraordinary tantrums. When he doesn't get his way or something won't work for him he throws giant tantrums stamping feet, screaming and raging, banging on the floor etc. I've tried to ignore them but I want to know what everyone thinks I should do. So if for example he is trying to pull something along and it gets stuck and he screams his head off about it, should I respond to the screams and unstick whatever it is etc? Or should I just ignore it? He can keep up these tantrums for as long as I've ever let him (ignored him once for a full fifteen minutes and it didn't stop)
I could sort of laugh at how ridiculous it was at first but now it is getting more frequent and is really relentless and awful and am in a bit of despair. Does anyone have any advice?
My 20month dd is the same. Sometimes I think "what did i do wrong?" but i try to remember its not personal. I ignore or distract (look at the dog/cat/tree/look in the mirror/out the window). But sometimes I think they have to work it out themselves. Its sooo hard though, I get so frustrated I could cry too at times!
I also say "use your words" to her to try and get her to understand that (the few) words she has are the best way to communicate. Though when she refuses to wear a bib then hits the roof because some of her dinner gets on her tshirt and its "dirty" I sometimes loose the the will to live.