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Can I ask if you would be upset by DC kissing in school?

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Thing3WasKissingSanta · 19/11/2012 20:41

I got a call last week from DD1s school asking me to go in and see her teacher after school. As I was at work I went in today. It turns out on Thursday DD1, who is 10, and her friend kissed on the lips. She see a learning mentor due to social issues she has and I have been told that this is going to be dealt with in those sessions.

I understand that this is not appropriate behaviour for school but a friend has said that if it was her DC she would be really upset about it and other parents would be as well. Should I be more bothered about it than I am?

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tigersmummy · 19/11/2012 22:26

Would help if you expanded a little bit. Was the friend a boy or girl? Does the school have a policy on PDAs? It seems a little heavy handed of the school to get worked up about it tbh.

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sannaville · 20/11/2012 13:13

Don't all kids do this? My dd1 got caught kissing a boy when she was 7. Was it a boy or girl she kissed? Kids go through these phases and I wouldn't worry overly

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BeerTricksPott3r · 20/11/2012 13:18

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SamSmalaidh · 20/11/2012 13:19

Seems like a massive over-reaction to me! What is so wrong about a kiss on the lips?

Surely all that needed to happened is the children gently told that kissing isn't appropriate in school Confused

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ICompletelyKnowAboutGuineaPigs · 20/11/2012 17:10

Maybe I had a weird childhood but I remember 'kissing' both a girl and a boy whilst I was at junior school. It wasn't sexual just part of growing up imo.

Obviously the school do not approve and its being dealt with from their end, but as with being bothered by it I think your friend is overreacting a little if I'm honest.

Have you asked your DD why she kissed her friend - there may be an explanation that will help you to understand her behaviour and talk to her about it in a way that suits.

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Thing3WasKissingSanta · 22/11/2012 13:04

Sorry for not coming back sooner Blush

Thank you for your replies. The friend DD1 kissed is a girl. They are both 10 in year 6. DD1 is seeing a learning mentor at school for various things including trouble she has with social interaction. My friend said that she would be upset as she thinks by this age they should know that doing this is inappropriate.

DD1 is a very caring girl but she doesn't find it easy reading other peoples reactions so will carry on talking when the person she is talking to has stopped listening or hugging people who look awkward. She doesn't really understand about not going off with strangers, or forgets if she does understand.

The school haven't made a huge deal out of it, they have just said they wanted to tell me before I found out from somewhere else.

Thank you again, I do feel better about it than I did last week.

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Thing3WasKissingSanta · 22/11/2012 13:04

It was earlier this week, feels like longer ago than that!

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