My 18 month old DS is really quite horrid to his 4.2 year old brother. DS1 adores DS2. He has been pretty good with him so far, taking his responsibility as a big brother very seriously, trying to share his toys (he has the odd moment, but on the whole he's been fine with this), giving him lots of cuddles, telling me immediately when he spots DS2 doing something unsafe or silly (putting his hands in the toilet bowl, climbing on the kitchen table, that sort of thing . He is always quick to comfort DS2 if he is upset.
In return, DS2 is increasingly being horrible to DS1. He takes his things, breaks up his lego models, pushes him away when DS1 tries to cuddle him, pulsl his hair, stamps on him if he is sitting on the floor, shouts in his face, physically will try to tear DS1 off me if I give him a cuddle or he sits on my knee for a story... you get the picture.
I'm not sure what to do about this. DS2 is generally a happy little soul, affectionate with DH and I and very independent and adventurous, but he just seems to trample all over DS1 (a much more gentle character), whose patience, understandably, is starting to wear thin. I feel that DS2 is still too young for any formal discipline, but also that DS1 needs to see a sanction for some of DS2's behaviour (as it is becoming difficult to reinforce the share / be kind / be gentle message with DS1 when he gets nothing in return).
DS1 is at pre-school 4 morning a week, so DS2 gets plenty of my attention (much more than DS1). They are better when there are no toys involved - e.g. playing in the garden - but we can't do that all day!
Any suggestions? I'd really like it if they could get along (and feel so sorry for DS1 who really does adore his brother).
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BrightenMyNorthernSky · 13/11/2012 14:35
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