Where am I going wrong?(51 Posts)
I have posted about a hundred posts about sleeping, eating, tantrums and I am still no closer to cracking it. I feel so hopeless and out of my depth. All I face from my dh and MIL is "she's not herself is she?! How very strange!" So frustrating. My dd is 16 months, doesn't walk (gave up after a few steps and i have no energy to carry her as im pregnant), makes mealtimes a battle ground, has started screaming at bath time, throws tantrums if I stop reading her book after her the 20th time. Why am I doing wrong? I am doing everything that the lovely mums of mumsnet advised me to do ie stay calm, don't react at mealtimes, give her affection when she kicks off etc and after today I feel as though I have hit a wall. I reduced the nap times to one nap after the advise on here and now she seems to tired to eat lunch and too tired to eat dinner. Once she was in bed I threw my hands in the air and sobbed. What am I doing wrong? Please help or tell me this is normal. I feel like such a crap mum and I'm trying so much to make my little girl happy.
We seem to be making a little bit of progress regarding bath times an dinner time now. Dd still seems unsettled in the bath but I put all bath toys in the bath and try and distract her but when I see she has had enough we get her out as i don't want to push it.
I've just tried to preserver with it all and try and stay calm. for example, went to our first rhyme time, total disaster, she wouldnt sit still Wanted to leave, i nearly cried lol. But I forgot about it quickly and realised it wasn't for her. I would've broken down before, she would've picked up on it and disaster would hit!
sometimes hearing that u r doing a good job from someone else makes all the difference as I feel like my dh is on auto pilot saying I do a good job lol. He tries. So thank you again for that it boosted my confidence for someone to say I sound like a good mum. I really do care and I so want to do a good job.
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