How much sleep does your 20 month old get...

[BabydollsMum]

in 24 hours?

DD generally does 8 til 8 and then a one hour lunchtime nap but she seldom sleeps through these days. Am I expecting too much for her to do 12 hours at night? We've got an appointment to see a sleep specialist soon but I'm just interested to know how much sleep same age kids are getting. Thanks!

[nextphase]

I think 18 month old DS2 is a good sleeper.
He does 7.30-6 most nights, without a wake. And then 1-1.5 hrs during the day (but has survived on a 15 min snooze, and wasn't grumpy at bed time!)

At that age, DS1 was doing 7-5.30, and waking around 11, and then awake for 2 hrs about 1am. He would have 39 mins in the middle of the day (yes, that accurately, you could literally put a timer on him!)

They are all different, but I guess if your looking at sleep specialist, you've got quite a few wakes during the night?

[TotallyEggFlipped]

Overnight 7:30/8-5:30/6ish. Usually wakes and settles herself once most nights.
Nap used to be 1hr20 mins, but the last 2 weeks I've had to wake her when she's still asleep after 2 hours.

[Rhubarbgarden]

At that age dd slept from 7pm till 8am with a two hour lunchtime nap.

[BabydollsMum]

Wow Rhubarb that's lots of sleep!

Yes, she's waking at about 1am/2am almost every night now and insisting on coming in with us and tossing and turning.

Trouble is, we're in a viscous cycle and lying in (me and DD, not DP) because we've had a rotten night so she does seem to need 12 hours of (broken) sleep. Might just have to bite the bullet and make sure we all get up early no matter how tired we are in an attempt to re-set her. Hmm, I might take advantage of the clocks changing this weekend!

[addictedtolatte]

my dd is 16 months does 7 till 7 with around 5 wakes.

[BabydollsMum]

Ouch!

[Nancyclancy]

My dd is 18 months and sleeps at night from around 7.30pm to between 7.00 and 8.00am. During the day she has at least an hour, can be up to 2 hours!

[BabydollsMum]

Fancy a swap, Nancy?

[diyqueen]

DD (19mo) sleeps from about 8pm - 7am, with at least one wake-up in the night (I'm still taking the lazy option and breastfeeding her back to sleep). She will have between 20 mins and 2 hours' nap during the day, depending what she's been doing and what kind of mood she's in... in 24 hours on average I think she probably gets about 12-13 hours sleep.

[mejon]

About to turn 21m DD2 sleeps from around 7-7. I sometimes hear her awake earlier but she tends to lie (fairly) quietly or play with her toys until someone goes in to her. She usually has a short nap mid-morning and a longer one after lunch of between 1 and 2 hours though sometimes she can go without if we're out and about doing something or refuses and I get her up when I realise trying is futile . I realise I'm very lucky - DD1 barely napped at all during the day as a baby and had definitely stopped by 12m so I'm making up for it with no2! DD1 slept well at night too until around the age of 2 when she would wake in the night and would need DH or I to be sitting with her or holding her hand. Once she was out of her cot she'd often come in with us at some point during the night. I'm hoping DD2 doesn't follow suit.

[5madthings]

my dd is 22mths and she sleeps about 11hrs at night? sometimes 12 depends when i put her to bed and if i have to wake her for the school run. we co-sleep, her nights are variable she can sleep pretty well when not teething etc but tbh even if she does wake its generally just a cuddle/pat etc as she is in our bed i dont have to actually get up!

in the day she will have a good 2hr nap as long as we are at home and i can put her to bed, if out she can go the whole day wihtout napping, did that twice this week! occasionally she will have a catnap in the pushchair or car.

out of my 5 i would say she is the second best sleeper, ds1 was shite, ds2 a bit better, ds3 same as ds2, then ds4 was a wonder baby who slept like a log and amazed me, she is not as bad as ds2 and ds3 but not as good as ds4!

incidentally my ds1 who was shite, is now 13 and would happily stay in bed all day given the chance!

[Nancyclancy]

No chance BabydollsMum Although I will say, despite getting a good nights sleep, she is a little whinger. You'll always pay somewhere.

[JugsMcGee]

DS is 20m and usually does 12hr at night with 2 wakes and has a 1-3hr nap. Although sometimes he doesn't nap at all - last week he didn't nap all week! I think he's making up for it this week as he's been napping 3hr and sleeping 14hr at night. Still wakes twice though.

[ZuleikaD]

DS is 22m and sleeps two to three hours at lunchtime then 10-11 hours at night. Roughly 13 out of every 24, I'd say, so about the same as your DD.

[RubyrooUK]

My DS has just turned two and for the last six months, he tends to sleep 9pm till 6:30 am with an hour in the daytime. He never sleeps through - he generally wakes at least twice a night.

[StarMeKitten]

For months now 21mo DD has slept around 7-7 at night with a 2hr nap in the afternoon if we are at home. Recently though she often doesn't settle for her nap in the afternoon and she's taking ages to settle at night too. No idea why!!

[Yika]

My DD who is now 25 months sleeps from 8-8 approximately. However she always wakes and has a bit a cry around midnight or 1. I ignore it. She's always done it and I think it's part of her natural sleep pattern. She normally just gets back to sleep after a while. If she sounds distressed I might go in and stroke her back or whisper something reassuring to her, but if I pick her up it only wakes her up more fully, so it's counterproductive.

[BabydollsMum]

Yika I wish I could do that but DD's in a bed now and is not so good at self-settling since we've moved her. She'd just get up. I'm hoping this sleep specialist will have some ideas about that.

[nextphase]

BabydollsMum
What has made you got in a sleep specialist?
It doesn't sound like what she's doing is that unreasonable, tho i totally understand you want more sleep.
Would she sleep on a temporary bed on your floor rather than in your bed, and let you sleep a little bit mroe comfortably?

When it was DS1 awake from 1-3 every night, I slept (dozed) on hid floor on a bed made from every spare duvet in the house. It meant he stayed in bed, and if I woke up and he was asleep, I could get back into our bed?

[BabydollsMum]

It was really only because one of my local mum friends had been and recommended it saying this lady is pretty quiet at the moment so she wanted more volunteers. She's NHS so it's free in our borough and I just thought why not? Why accept broken nights as the norm when other kids can sleep through?

Thing is, you're right, DD doesn't sound that bad on paper with only one wake up (and I know others have it much worse!) but once she's in with us the tossing and turning can last hours and we really do have some awful nights.

Temp bed sounds like a good idea but tbh, I really don't think DD would go for that. It's more to do with being Mummy-clingy (literally) at the moment, which is odd because in the day she's really not clingy and all and is a happy little soul.