So cross. Me and dh have given him him a telling off, told him we are disappointed etc. He, along with 3 other boys, we're sent to the head and made to write apology letter, will also miss play time tomorrow. He's in year 2 and I'm disappointed he's had to see the head, feel he should know better.
How and is this, and is it typical silly boy behavior, or future trouble maker?
I think you need to give a bit more detail but my gut reaction says he's not a future trouble maker - you'd have had other problems before now.
My guess would be stupid prank - and it would be worth establishing who's idea the hair cutting was i.e. was it his, showing off to his mates or was he being led by someone else, so you can tackle his behaviour accordingly.
Well, the only other incident was at the end of year 1 him elbowing another boy in the belly in reaction to boy putting his arms round him from behind. Apart from that, all school reports have been very good and positive.
Another boy cut my ds1 hair first, then my ds cut girl's hair so they copied. I do think he enjoys mischief.
I think that's fairly funny and typical boys behaviour. I imagine the head thing is a big shock and it won't happen again. Boys are naughty! I would only worry if he was doing things like that each month. Otherwise whilst he may get in trouble, it's good to have the occasional rebellious/naughty streak. Hope I don't sound to irresponsible just think its not that bad!
How you deal with incidents such as this will shape how he develops. I am a teacher and do not believe that any child is born ' a troublemaker'. You are doing the right thing by supporting the school, because he will know that you and the school have the same expectations of him. That way he will quickly learn that he can not break a school rule and have it no affect his home life. By expressing your disappointment, ensuring he understands why it was the wrong thing to do and then letting him move past it you will ensure your son understands his mistake and doesn't repeat it. Letting him move past it is very important once all of the consequences have been completed. If he was one of three in trouble for the same thing it sounds to me like there was a little peer pressure/group mischief going on so you could focus on trying to get him to understand the importance of following his own moral compass. All children are capable of mischief, but they do learn very quickly that the consequences for mischief are less fun than getting into mischief in the first place!