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cashmere Wed 17-Oct-12 09:13:49

DS is 2 1/2. I work 3 days a week and on my 2 days at home I try to make sure we meet up with a friend on one of the days.
The other 3 days he is cared for by grandparents and goes to 1 playgroup (and park, shops etc)

So he has 2 definate social meetings a week (and will often also see his cousins or play with whoever is in the park too).

He does not go to nursery/ Pre school at the moment and won't till next April.

Is this enough or do you think he should be socialising more?

ZuleikaD Wed 17-Oct-12 10:52:00

Plenty, I'd have thought!

SilverCharm Wed 17-Oct-12 11:05:17

I think it's too often! You'll find that some people are happy to meet once a week (like you) whilst for others, (like me) I wont do playdates more than once a month.

He's got an active social life by the sound of it and if that's what you enjoy, then good for you...carry on! grin

Mine had much less...one weekly trip to playgroup, one meet with cousins and no "friends" until school.

ZuleikaD Wed 17-Oct-12 11:06:43

FWIW I don't do playdates at all. I'm not an especially social person and toddlers aren't mad keen on having to share their stuff anyway - I figure school is plenty early enough for a social life.

cashmere Wed 17-Oct-12 11:18:32

Great that's what I wanted to hear! I think that because he doesn't go to nursery I panic that he'll not have as much practise at sharing.
Baby brother imminent will soon change that though ...!
I often prefer just reading/baking/painting/chilling with him so will relax a bit.

Nancyclancy Thu 18-Oct-12 11:54:27

I don't really do play dates as such either. I meet up with 2 friends with dc of similar ages, once or twice a week. But that's more a catch up for us then for the dc grin My dd is my 4th so she has older brothers (quite a bit older who she loves and cousins.
I don't intend to send her to Pre school until she's 3 1/2. If I felt she was lonely and needed more interaction with other dc, then I'd make a point of bing more sociable.

BooBumpDaddyandMe Sat 20-Oct-12 22:03:59

Gosh, I worry too that ds doesn't get enough interaction with his peers, never occurred to me that there could be too much.
Ds has a music group he attends every Monday & a toddler group most Fridays, we meet up with friends (his & mine) for soft play/zoo/home play date/beach/park at least once a week.
Ds2 is due in a few weeks & this pregnancy has been quite hard. It's made me feel guilty not being able to do as much as usual (can't manage walking to the park, play & then walk home again now). It's taken a really different mindset on my part to realise that it's ok to stay home & draw, play, read & (god forbid) watch a Pixar film on the sofa together! Ds isn't going to become an anti social, stammering, shy kid just because he doesn't go out every day!!

SilverCharm Sat 20-Oct-12 22:13:49

God no....being at home is just as important as mixing. I am far too lazy and poor to do as much as you, but I try to spend time doing things at home and going to the park with mine.

As long as they are happy when they begin nursery and school, its' fine...and I also belive that no matter HOW many playdates they do, they're either sociable or not due to personality.

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