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Has 2.5 DS going to nursery buggered everything up?

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Sutherlandgirl Wed 10-Oct-12 21:16:06

Long post alert....

My 2.5 year old DS started nursery 2 weeks ago, four mornings a week. He hasn't been to one before, having been looked after by my parents while I'm at work.

It's a small nursery, only 9 kids between 2.5 and 4 years, on a farm, and run by two lovely ladies.

There are a few tears each morning but he will usually go off with one of the ladies and have a cuddle, while I leave. The ladies that run it say he gets very tired but he doesn't spend the whole time sobbing, and I think enjoys being there overall, although he doesn't exactly beg me to take him!

However, he is clearly quite deeply affected by the whole experience, as he has suddenly started to refuse most foods (is generally not that fussy an eater) other than porridge, toast, plain yoghurt and fruit (oh and I'm sure he would happily scoff as many sweets, crisps and chocolate as he could get if I let him!) He also has noticeable separation anxiety when we are at home together, for example if I leave the room. And he has regressed quite a lot with using the toilet.....especially number twos (bleurgh).

So far, so normal......but my dilemma is, do I keep taking him 3 or 4 mornings a week (I think the consensus is less than 3 mornings and they don't tend to settle well) and see how it goes? Or take him out and try again in a few weeks? I don't want to traumatise him forever! But he really needs the socialisation, as in general he struggles to socialise with other children.

Anyone else have a similar experience?

Kellyl26 Wed 10-Oct-12 22:31:55

Hi, my sister is experiencing a similiar thing at the moment. I don't know if you will be able to do this, but she sent my niece just for one hour each morning & it seems to have worked! Hope this helps. I think I would be concerned about what goes on, children might not know whsts going on but the feel things, and maybe he just doesn't like that particular environment?

BigWitchLegsInWailyTights Wed 10-Oct-12 22:34:57

I''d reduce it. He's very small and if you are only doing it for socialisation and he's not adjusting...it's just not worth it. And I understand about children who don't mix easily as I have one.

My DD is 8 now and just fine...no bother at all with socialisation but it took her until she was about 6 or 7 to get really confident.

He's almost a baby still. I also disagree about the not settling well on less than three mornings.

Really...I would take him out all together and then continue with playgroups where you can go with him. Meet up with friends and family and then at 3 he can go to preschool part time.

It's just not worth the stress if it's not because of work. The time you have with him now is very precious....he'll be at full time school very soon.

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