Winging little shit(14 Posts)
I can't keep it together today. I'm a SAHM to a 9 month DS and 2 year old DD. My DD isn't too bad but my DS winges none stop all day. He's at that inbetween stage where he can't yet crawl but gets bored easily and always ends flat on his face. I can never get anything done because I have to constantly pick him up and put him back in a sitting position.
I know that calling my baby a 'little shit' may suggest that I shouldn't be a parent, and to be honest I'm starting to believe it myself. I thought this was a one-off bad day at first but it's been happening for a week now. I've been close to downing a bottle of vodka several times.
I've just shouted at him. I'm at my wits end.
Can't you get out of the house?
Go for a walk, tothe park, to a friends, for a coffee, to the library, to a mother & toddler group
Youll go insane if you stay in
I'm going to a group at 1pm. And it brings me some relief.
I'm just hating being a parent at the moment I don't know if this is normal or not.
Whining is horrible and it does wear you down
I'm not going to give you grief about the name calling because I'm sure you know it's not good.
Just remember its a phase and have a biscuit.
Can you prop him with some cushions so he doesn't fall over and give him some toys? I found my breastfeeding pillow was good for this. Or do you have/can you borrow a bumbo chair? Or one of those blow-up doughnut things, or out him in a high chair?
Could it be teeth?
You sound like you are struggling a bit. I would also advise going out. Forget the housework, the weather looks ok today, take them out to the park and take a snack picnic. Get DH/DP to do the evening shift tonight or tomorrow and go out for a couple of hours (swim, run, see a friend, cinema, something to give you a break).
Could you put him into child care somewhere for a couple of hours a few times a week . It would not only give you a break but would also let you spend time just with your DD . Or stick them both in child care a couple of times a week and have some time to yourself. I have always been a SAHM but mine both went to nursery a couple of times a week from about a year - I convinced myself it was so they could socialise with other children !
It will pass. Any chance of putting him (and maybe dd too) into nursery or cm or leaving with someone else for a few hours?
I'm not really a fan of childcare for the under 3s. But I appreciate your suggestions. I think DS is tired, because it happens at the same time every day.
Can someone have him for a couple of hours? A bit of a break from the noise will do you the world of good. When dd2 was at this age I got her a bumbo with a little tray on it, she could sit up in it and play without falling and getting cross. It was a godsend.
My 9 month old ds is the same. It's just this week the whines have turned into full blown screams as he's teething. It's odd as I have more patience for him now, even though he screams, as I know there is a reason. The constant whining, fir no apparent reason, really winds me up too and I can lose my temper and shout. Hate that!
I take him out in the pram alot! He is normally happy and less whingy. Baby groups I find stressful as he still ends to whine but in the company of strangers - which I find uncomfortable.
Do try and get out and about. The fresh air and new sighrs and sounds will do you all good.
burnt just wanted to say that you are completely normal. having 2 tiny children is such hard work.
be kind to yourself. this stage will go more quickly than you think. i have 3 dc, 10, 5 and 3. i am just beginning to feel more like me again. not for long periods, but i now have the odd five minutes when i actually feel vaugely normal.
the first 2 years of dc3's life were a continuous loop of whinging, trying to get them to eat/sleep/stop fighting/clearup/get changed/put a nappy on/wee on the loo....... i could go on. and all the time you are bloody knackered and your eyes sting.
it is all worth it. i know some people enjoy the baby stage - i had moments of pure joy, but i wouldn't willingly do it again - especially with a small age gap - that's the killer.
is your dp supportive? or any nice friends or family? failing that any teenage girls around who could play with them for an hour or so?
take care and don't panic - it's all fine and normal.
Thanks guys. Both kids are currently asleep (YAY!) so I have a moment to collect my thoughts.
Toast, are you feeling any better? Are they in bed? Just wanted to say I'm with you all the way. Same age gap and finding it bloody hard work and very tedious. I have up work as financially not viable with CC costs and I really miss having headspace & challenge outside the home. My elder is going to nursery for a couple of mornings when he is just 2.5 as I think the change will do him good and allow me a bit of time with baby. I think the whingeing is do much worse because you have do much else to do and it gets in on you like a drill to your head. I have had a crap week and found every little thing to be highly irritating! Looking forward to a haircut on Sat & big fat glass of vino now . Hope you are too.
Sorry for typos! Hope you can work out that 'do' should've read 'so'.
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