4 year old will not eat and now an issue at school...need advise

[paul1202]

My 4 year old will generally eat nothing except shreddies, fish fingers, and pasta. He started school this past month and fortunatley they have a salad bar, which includes pasta, and cucumber(which hee will eat). Now the school thinks he needs to bring a packed lunch as school dinnre time is too stessful for him, i need to fnd a bit more out as this was the message from my mother when she picked him up.

Does anyone else have a 4year old fussy eater and problems with school dinner time. Our child will not eat sandwiches. We were really hoping school would encourage him to eat other things. 2 years ago he would anything, but suddenly he started saying things were dirty, and i believe this may have come from my mother saying something to him

Any help or advise would be appreciated

Paul

[theoriginalandbestrookie]

What are your options around school lunch ?

If he is finding it stressful at the minute then I would be inclined to let it go at the minute and make him a pack lunch and maybe try again in a few months when he has settled into school a bit more.

DS is a fussy eater, but its great now he is in P2 because in our school they can opt to have school lunches on a daily basis so we look at the menu at the weekend and make a decision for each day.

I wouldn't worry too much about it.

[An0therName]

can he not take things in that he will eat - doens't have to be sandwiches -
this is supposed to a useful book about eating

www.amazon.co.uk/My-Child-Wont-Eat-mealtimes/dp/1780660057/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1349124982&sr=1-1&tag=mumsnet&ascsubtag=mnforum-21

[paul1202]

thanks for the responses, i will have to speak to school tomorrow, maybe we just give him pasta for his lunch, but we were hoping he would see the other kids eat and at least try and join in. Will review the book, but have read quite a few in the past. Hopefully one day he will just start to want to try something different

[narmada]

The thing that struck me about yr post was your son saying some foods were dirty. That seems like quite a significant thing to me. What did yr mum say to him about that issue?

[MigGril]

No need to pot in sandwiches, DD doesn't like them either and complained that I put them in her lunch bag last week. I often send her in with cold pasta and other bits in pits that she will eat.

[mercibucket]

Both situations seem to involve your mum. Any chance she is exaggerating or misunderstanding what the school said? Speak to school direct and ask them to encourage him to eat school dinners maybe? I avoided packed lunch for this reason and ds is much better now