DD is 5, and a sweet, lovely little girl. She goes to an all girls school about 5 miles from home. DS is 7 (also sweet and lovely, but that's not completely relevant) and goes to an all boys school about 2 miles from home in the opposite direction. They both have the same window in which they have to be in school and traffic in our town can make it very difficult and stressful getting them both dropped off on time.
I hit on what I thought was the perfect plan for at least a couple of days a week: there is a girl in DD's class who lives in the same village as DS's school. I drop DD there on the way to DS's school and she hitches a ride with them (they have an older daughter who goes to the same school). One afternoon a week DD and her classmate take tennis lessons together so we do the school pickup and get them both to their lesson. The other mum thought this was a fantastic idea.
Trouble is, DD's classmate is a BRAT. She says and does mean, thoughtless things almost every single morning - one morning she's screaming "I don't want [DD] to come to school with us!", the next she's throwing a Nintendo DS at DD, she's always kicking up a fuss over what position she and everyone else is in in the car, stuff like that. I've always known she was a bit difficult, but I never expected this. Her mum and dad have recently separated, and that may be behind what's making it so bad now, but it doesn't explain all of it. The mum tries to get her to stop, but not terribly effectually.
DD has never complained about it - she is so forgiving and doesn't hold grudges. She has never asked me if we can stop bringing her to this girl's house, or if I can take her to school. I'm trying to follow her lead - at the first sign of wanting it to stop I would do it, but without that, should I? How do I broach it with the mum without sounding judgmental? I know this mum is trying so hard to carry on as normal - she doesn't want people pitying her, she wants to be seen to pull her weight, and I would love to support her in that. But I also don't want to subject my DD to a new form of torture every morning in that cause.
Any insights greatly appreciated.
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Should I continue to subject DD to this?
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mommybunny · 27/09/2012 17:44
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