Hi,
I have just joined up to ask about something that's becoming a daily issue regarding the behaviour of my 2 Daughters aged 7 and 9 (almost 10)
This may seem very bizarre to some people and I'm really not sure how to handle the behaviour.
First off I'll say that I didn't breastfeed either of them (due to pre-eclampsia, special care babies etc).
I can't remember which of them started first, but it began when they thought it would be funny to start grabbing my breasts in a playful kind of way. I think they saw it as something that would annoy me and although I always direct them away from the area and say no they are persisting in doing it.
Also, they have been known to grab me in public which is worrying.
Recently this progressed into grabbing my backside (usually in the shower but also when I'm clothed) and making referenced to 'Mummy's nice bum'.
I made it clear that this was not appropriate behaviour but as they get a reaction from me they seem to think its funny.
Things have progressed even further and my youngest has started grabbing my crotch area which alarmed me somewhat. This is also seen as 'funny' by her despite me telling her off.
I'll react by saying things like ' you shouldn't do that' but I really don't know how I should react.
They both refer to my breasts as 'pillows' and will often cuddle me and rest their head there which I don't mind.
I think a clear line needs to be drawn though in what is appropriate.
They are not affectionate at all towards my husband so its not been an issue with him or other family members.
If anyone had any advice about this issue I'd really appreciate it as I'm not sure how to handle it.
Thanks.
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Not sure how to handle Daughter's behaviour
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Di33 · 26/09/2012 12:00
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