Night time potty battles(3 Posts)
I need some advice regarding my DD who is 5 in January. She?s been potty trained since she was 2 and dry at night since she was 2 1/2. BUT when she wakes in the late evening/night time needing a wee she doesn?t just get out of the bed and sit on the potty which is 1 foot away from her bed, she sits bouncing on the mattress, crying hysterically and coughing until either me or my husband goes and lifts her out of the bed and puts her on the potty. We keep on telling her she?s old enough to get out of bed quietly and sit on the potty by herself and that she doesn?t need us but still it continues. She?s got 3 brothers who luckily don?t get woken up by her little performance, but if I leave her to it she wets the bed rather than actually just get out and sit on the damned potty. She?s always inconsolable when we do go to her and I ummed and ahhed about whether or not she was having night terrors but I?m really very sure she?s just being plain stubborn. I think it?s habit/control with her but if I leave her to it she just wets the bed and then it?s as if she?s got our attention by default as of course I then have to go in and change the sheets, albeit with as little interaction as possible with her. I just don?t know how to break this cycle. We?ve stopped any drinks from 5pm (except a very small amount of milk with dinner) and ensure she goes to the toilet just before lights-out but I?m mindful of the fact that we?re just reducing the likelihood of it happening if she?s not got enough liquid on board to need to do a wee, rather than let her drink if she wishes and learn to deal effectively with the need to wee later on if she wakes up. We get her to use a potty in her room as I don't want her coming out of her bedroom at night; we live in a 3 storey house, our bedroom is on the top floor and the kids are on the middle floor. She's accident prone and has already knocked her front teeth out so I don't want her roaming the house at night! Any suggestions or ideas would be gratefully received as this has been going on for over 2 years now.
Could you introduce something new and exciting to help her, now that she is such a big grown up girl.
Perhaps a wind-up torch to have by her bed, which she can use to see her way to the potty?
Or even a reward chart with a special treat after a few good nights?
Unfortunately she has got a bit of a thing about shining torches into her eyes, about 3mm away from her eyeball so I know I cannot trust her with one. She has got a night light so she can definitely see the way, but I understand the novelty of a being allowed to use a torch , if only she could be trusted with it.
We tried the reward chart and put a new toy on the top of her wardrobe in her bedroom so she could see it but not touch (mean Mummy!) and said that if she had stopped making a fuss at the end of the week she could have the toy. She stopped the fussing, got the toy then promptly went back to her old night time hystrionics the next night. Grrrrrrr, little madam!
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