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what am i doing wrong?

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lovesthechaos3 Sat 22-Oct-11 16:26:21

have 3 ds, 3, 5 and 7 years old. Have bascially brought them up on my own and didn't think i had done a bad job, they are all very close to each other, polite, help around the house and were generally well behaved untill about 2 weeks ago then BOOM they all changed, fighting constantly, not using manners etc. I had to pull my 7yo Ds off my 5yo Ds as they were fighting pretty bad 2 nights ago resulted in me being caught in the cross fire and getting a broken thumb! What could change in theat time because i have no idea, any help or suggestions greatly appriciated as i am beggining to feel out of my depth :-/

MumblingAndBloodyRagDoll Sat 22-Oct-11 23:26:55

Has anything happened for any of them...or you... that is different?
Any changes at school?

How on earth did your thumb get broken??

Maryz Sat 22-Oct-11 23:36:15

You are more than likely doing nothing wrong at all.

They are growing up, becoming more independent and fighting to be top dog. Perfectly normal (if infuriating) behaviour.

You need a set of rules and guidelines to keep you and them on the straight and narrow. Have you considered finding a local parenting course (I found them a great support when mine were that age).

My greatest success was instituting a "no touch" rule. They weren't allowed to touch each other (pushing, shoving, play-fighting etc). The minute they did, I turned off the tv and confiscated all electronics and sent them to their rooms. Instantly, no argument, no attempted refereeing, no discussion. And I did it every time. It only took about a week of consistency to sort it out.

Are they sharing rooms, and can you have places to seperate them, because that helps?

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