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Biting 5 Year Old

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WibbleDribble · 20/10/2011 22:13

My DD was bitten by her friend after school at the park today. One minute they were playing beautifully, the next DD was in tears and barely able to speak. By the time I'd established what had happened, bitey friend had been whisked away by her child minder who was oblivious to what had just happened. I get on well with bitey friend's mum and I am aware of severe behavioural issues with her 9 yr old DS. He could be an influence here, but not sure whether to approach bitey girl direct and have a quiet word in her ear to let her know that I will be watching in future, or if I should mention it to her mum? Advice welcomed please.

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531800000008 · 20/10/2011 22:31

Please don't speak to the child

And as neither you nor the CM saw what happened I would chalk it up

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WibbleDribble · 20/10/2011 22:46

Thanks for the feedback - do you have similar experience in this?

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WibbleDribble · 20/10/2011 23:01

I would say although I didn't see what happened I did see the bruise afterwards. It was thru about 3 layers of clothing. I am not a fuss pot and DD is not a wimp by any means. I am just cross at the thought of her getting away with it, purely coz no-one saw what she did. And even tho she's only 5 I think it's right that she should be aware that this behaviour is not acceptable - she totally knew what she was doing. I am cross because we all had a very pleasant and light-hearted chat before we got to the park so I feel rather puzzled as to why she felt the need to do this to DD.

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531800000008 · 20/10/2011 23:56

yes, biter and bitten (sep occasions)

If you don't see the immediate (what's the opposite of aftermath?) seconds BEFORE, that could maybe explain such an extreme reaction, then you really can't do anything

There might have been a tussle, or squabble

Biting at this age is at the upper end of what's acceptable in NT children, BUT it's a very effective method from the biter's POV

chin up, shoulders back, soldier on

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WibbleDribble · 23/10/2011 23:20

Hey, thanks for the advice. I didn't say anything to biter. But the next time I see her mum I will have a quiet word. DD still has the remains of a bruise on her arm but I am much more composed about the whole situation. It's been a learning curve. You were so right with your advice. Kids eh! Who'd have 'em? :)