DD1 is 3.2 and has always been a fussy child but lately has been even worse.
We have major tantrums because the teddy is facing the wrong way, There's a hair on her toy, Her toenails are too long, I don't want to see that teddy tonight, there's fluff on the carpet. Its random things really. Apart from hair/fluff/dirt that has been an issue since forever!
Is this normal? Its like she decides she doesn't like something and just goes into a complete drama about it. She so obsessive it scary! She will wake then wake you up with her screaming because there's some dirt on her bedroom carpet.
OMG....it was socks in my house that were the problem. DD2 absolutely would not entertain wearing any type of sock that had a seam inside the toes at the end. Try finding pairs without them!!! And everytime I found a pair that she would wear we'd be ok for a week or so, then she'd claim they were uncomfortable too. Gaaah!
She grew out of it, thankfully. Cost me a fortune in socks though.
she sounds a little like my ds 11 he doesnt like foods touching each other. no labels inside clothes. likes to line things up duvet has to be exactly straight on the bed no hair sticking up on his head! thankfully its not too bad now he is a bit older. have you read a book called the highly sensitive child ? that may give you some insight into her behaviour. you have my sympathies... i know how wearing it can be.