Bit of background, DD was 7 in July and she is currently in P3 but in a composite P3/4 class who also have 2 job share teachers. At home DD at times isn't the best behaved, she is very independant and can be stubborn and at times has tantrums and yells, but at school she has always been well behaved. In P2 she got an end of term award and also the end of year reward at assembly for her class because of working hard etc. There was a few incidences of challenging behaviour towards the end of P2 that her teacher put down to attention seeking. She also started to have bother with another child in the class which I had to bring to the attention of the school. Since she started the P3/4 class in August I have had to speak to the school because she had told me the same child from P2 had been starting on her again, kicking/punching etc. And on one occassion this child poured a bottle of water over her. Teachers weren't much help. When I asked what they were going to do about it I got told that they would perhaps need to speak to the other girls mum.
Got a phone call from the school today to tell me that DD is getting an after school detention as she was seen to hit another child and when asked about it refused to speak to the teacher or headteacher. This is classed as a level 5 violation. The school have now told me that there have been other incidences of her being defiant and refusing to speak to them about things when asked. (She does tend to do this when something is bothering her and she keeps it to herself and then eventually she breaks down and it all comes out.) It's the first i've heard of it as neither teacher bothers to go to the cloakroom door and see parents, I only know what one of them looks like.
I am concerned about it as, yes she can be badly behaved at home but she has always been fine at school up until a few months ago when the school year started. It's parents night tonight so the teachers are bound to bring it up, any advice as to what can be done to get to the bottom of this and find out what has really happened ?
I would be worried too....have there been any changes in her life recently? I also have a July born 7 year old who has become a bit more cheeky lately....she also had some issues with not finishing work at school and being a bit cheeky....maybe its a funnny age.
It does sound like your DD is bright...maybe she feels nthing was done about the kicking child and felt that she could gt away with hitting too? mAybe it was a sort of rebellion about that?
And this is the first time you have been aware of an issue with her behaviour? That seems like quite an extreme consequence and I think you should ask your daughter's teacher what other things have already been done to HELP your daughter to manage her behaviour.