I adore my 11 month old ds and comfort him whenever he is genuinely upset but if he is just grizzly/ whingey I tend to distract him rather than pick him up all the time, he usually brightens his mood quickly i also like him to play on his own sometimes. My dh works long hours and (I think) feels guilty so will pick ds up at the slightest murmur from him, my MIL also looks after ds twice a week and seems to relish the fact that he "cries whenever I put him down" So she indulges him, he only has to look at a toy and it's bought.
It is now hard to settle him for a couple of days if I have been at work. However I might be being too sensitive because I am afraid of him becoming spoilt and I feel guilty for going to work. But I am with him most of the time and need him to be able to amuse/settle himself. Does the impact other people have make such a difference? Or do you think this is a separation anxiety thing or a phase. It has just taken me 2 hrs to get him down for a nap. MIL and dh had him yesterday and dh said he was crying whenever MIL put him down so she held him all day.
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Am I being too harsh
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Bbee1 · 03/10/2011 11:31
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