DS (nearly 5) is upset by balloons being popped, which rather inevitably happens at birthday parties. He's ok with me leaving him (at trusted friend's) parties (only just started doing this and previous one I did he was fine- was outside, no balloons!), but today I got a call from the Mum saying he was in tears because some balloons had been popped. When I got back to the party he was fine, eating the birthday tea with all the others. Apparentely he recovered pretty quick but was very upset when it initially happened. I'd completely forgotten about this issue when I'd discussed with him about how I would go home and come back for him.
Just wondering what I should think about this for future parties. Do I need to stay until he is better with this, or can I have a quiet word with the party host to warn them- can't really ban balloons from other children's parties (!) but we certainly won't be having any at his!
I would still leave him at parties but explain to the host about his fear of gallons popping. As you said he got over it quickly. A lot of 5 year olds are afraid of balloons popping so he's not likely to be the only one at a party with this problem. My daughter was afraid of balloons until she was 8. My niece is grown up and still hates balloons.
I would always warn the host. Firstly there's nothing worse than finding a child visitor in tears and not knowing what's wrong. Secondly sometimes games which include popping balloons (usually to get stuff inside) can be played. I don't quite understand why because whenever I've seen it done (often by a professional entertainer) there's almost always been a child in tears because of it, and a couple of small girls trying in vein to protect a balloon they want to take home... and then they end in tears.
Thanks all. Yes, I think a warning to the host should be fine for the immediate future (feel rather silly that I had completely forgotten about this fear yesterday!) perhaps with a proviso that they phone me after 5 or 10 minutes if he is still upset. It happens DS is off school today with a slight temperature and sore throat so think maybe he wasn't feeling at his best anyway yesterday hence the tears- although they may have happened anyway.