I have a 5yr old, (6 next Feb) and I am at my wits end with her and her tantrums. At least 4 or 5 times a week she throws an all out screaming, kicking tantrum, usually when she is denied something she wants ie not allowed outside to play because its late or not allowed sweets before dinner, that sort of thing. She has always been like that but what was somewhat acceptable or normal at 2 or 3 is getting beyond a joke at 5 :(.
We have NEVER given into a tantrum, she is put out into the hall or up to her room and told she can come down when she is finished, which she does and she always says sorry. I always try to stay calm, ignore the screaming and I dont shout back, all the things you are told to do in a tantrum but its not working. I actually feel its getting worse now not better because 1) she used to only do it at home for us, but today she did it it the grandparents for the first time ever, and 2) she is physically becoming too heavy for me to lift out of the room or bring upstairs (she lies on the floor screaming and kicking so I have to move her out of the way of the other kids).
Please tell me what I can try, I feel I have done everything and nothing works. I am clear with boundries and rules, I give her time outs for naughty behaviour, I praise her all the time when she is good, I spend lots of time with her and tell her I love her etc, I use the 1-2-3 method and while that works sometimes, it often ends in a tantrum too. What can I try? I am sorry to say I even smacked her last week which I never do, I was just at the end of my tether and of course it had no effect. I dont think she even noticed ! When she is not screaming she is a lovely bright, sociable, confident girl with lots of friends and doing very well in school. Her vocabulary would be above average so its not down to not being able to express herself, its just she wants her own way and thats that .
Any advice please??????????
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5 yr old STILL throwing tantrums, please help!!
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elah11 · 02/10/2011 20:27
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