Hi, advice desperately needed as I am at the end of my tether. Sorry for long post. I am absolutley knackered and I can't think straight enough to write concisely.
My DD is 2.9 years old and her behaviour is really getting me down.
Bit of background: I have a 4 month old baby and DD has just started pre-school (all day, every day - long days too - this is the way it is done in Spain where we live) so two major changes in a short space of time which although she has adjusted to both well, obviously have changed her world in a big way and is having some effect upon her behaviour.
She has always been a very 'headstrong' child and was well into her terrible two stage by the age of 1...and still it continues. I know she is a lovely little girl but right now she is being a nightmare. I put some of it down to her age, and being tired but I am fed up of these 'excuses' as she thinks she rules the roost at home and I am finding it totally exhausting, especially with a little baby to look after too.
Everything is a battle - EVERYTHING. She has never been 'easy going' but blimey, from the minute she gets up it is "NO" to every request. Normal behaviour for a 2 year old but I just don't know how to handle it any more. If she does something naughty like throw her dinner on the floor I give her a warning and if her bad behaviour continues I take her to her room and leave her for 2 mins til she says sorry. It takes FOREVER which is very difficult as I have the baby too and she gets extremely hysterical, flailing around like a wild animal, screaming, banging down the door etc etc. She eventually calms down and sobs 'sorry'. It is very distressing for all of us each time it happens and I don't know what to do - continue - be stricter - use a different method???
I feel myself getting realy really angry and I am frightened at how close i am to losing it with her sometimes. If I do go nuts it just makes the situation worse. She doesn't respond to softly softly or a real telling off. I know I need to be consisent wh=ith how we tackle this but I am at a loss with what to try.
The worst time is now bedtime which was never a prob - she used to just go to bed and that was it until 8amish. She started to refuse to go to bed without Mummy or daddy sitting by her which we indulged in as she was getting SO upset and we thought the phase would pass. Not so - and it has come back to bite us. She won't go to bed (takes ages to settle her) and is up every single night screaming the house down. We no longer stay with her but do the walk back to bed approach - no talking or cuddling, just leading her back to bed. We had one night from 1am-3am of doing this and she then seemed to 'get it' and despite waking, would go back to sleep relatively quickly. But now she just screams the place down and waits for us to walk her back to bed. She just holds out her hand and is quite happy for us to go back and forth a million times. The problem is she gets hysterical - and I mean hysterical. Waking all of us up, including the baby. She also gets up around 6am every morning now which is killing me as I am up most of the night between feeding the baby and listening to her scream while my husband deals with her. Any ideas on what we could do?
I basically need advice on how to discipline her effectively and how to end these night wakings which are really taking their toll - especially on her. She is exhausted.
Thank you so much. Sorry again for going on for so long.
Uggghhh.
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fluffhead · 22/09/2011 11:56
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