My son (aged 7) has been 'difficult' from birth. Cried all the time, wouldn't sleep, wouldn't settle out and about EVER, wouldn't join in at toddler groups, had extreme tantrums, would cry whenever he went to nursery/pre-school/school, hates being the centre of attention, cries at birthday parties, gets upset if other people get told off, can't stand loud/busy places, gets really upset by little things like scratchy labels in shirts and is extremely sensitive to food textures.
I'd always known he was sensitive but sort of saw it as part of my role to encourage him to try new things and be a bit braver/toughen up a bit. I have got easily frustrated with him as he is such hard work.
Then I discovered a book called the Highly Sensitive Child. I saw a quiz online that let you determine if your child was highly sensitive - and boy did my son tick all the boxes. The book arrived today and I have devoured half of it.
It has literally had me in tears. They are describing my child to the letter - and I can't believe I didn't recognise it. And worst of all, everything I've been trying to do to help him has been wrong. It's so obvious now that I've read about it how I should be handling him. It was a real, genuine lightbulb moment.
So I just wanted to share the book title in case anyone else has a similar sounding child and who can't quite figure out why their child is different but so obviously is. Apparently 20% of the population are highly sensitive people. Best of all, the book explains why HSPs are so invaluable to society and how to help them make the most of who they are. They are normal. No disorder or anything, they just take in more and process it more completely so many things can be overwhelming. And because they're processing everything, it takes them longer to make decisions or to take part in things.
I found the book on amazon. Author is Elaine Aron.
Hope it helps give another mum the same wake up call I got today.
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Hyper sensitive children - a lightbulb discovery for me
joshandjamie · 21/09/2011 18:24
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