My DS who is 5 is becoming increasingly impossible to manage and it is causing tension with my parents and DH and my other LO.
He is just the sweetest child very often. Very funny, sharing, bright and kind. But he is also sometimes an angry, aggressive, disrespectful little monster.
He behaves impeccably at school (teachers say so) and although 'lively' he is not aggressive or unkind to other children though he likes rough games (mainly focussed on sword fighting). With adults in shops, friends' parents etc he is very polite.
But in our personal life he is becoming impossible to handle. He totally ignores his dad; he won't do anything he tells him, won't be disciplined, won't have his teeth brushed, won't do his reading, won't do anything he doesn't fancy in fact - instead he shouts and screams 'I hate you', 'I want a new daddy' etc. He often hits out or throws things - real mega tantrums. DH is a very kind man and I know this really hurts him.
He behaves similarly to my parents and they think he needs a good smack (which we don't give him but they have on occasion)! He just about does what I tell him and is very, very devoted to me. But even with me he sometimes goes bananas.
We all walk on eggshells trying not to provoke, so he gets a much easier time that his older brother - who is extremely polite and well mannered and does what he's told.
He is always sorry afterwards and it always ends in tears. But he is too proud and stubborn to ever apologise. His latest refrain at the end of his latest meltdown is that we all hate him - which he knows is utter nonsense. I am genuinely wondering if I need to go visit a doctor for some advice.
Can anyone tell me where to start?
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I really need help - 5 year old so angry and disrespectful (long - sorry)
bonfirequeen · 18/09/2011 22:44
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