I think I could do with a good talking to.
DD2 is 8. She has just gone into Y4 and is doing fine at school, but for some reason I have always been worried about her. I think partly it's because she's the second one. DD1 is 3 years older and has always been a fairly classic older child - responsible, mature, hardworking and tuned in to others. DD2 in contrast was late doing everything - although still in the normal range, just. She didn't walk till she was nearly 18 months and her speech was very unclear for a long time and is still quite babyish. She never saw the point in trying hard to please like DD1, doing everything only when she felt like it. In fact she's always seemed to be quite happy with herself.
My worry is mainly social. She is lucky to have one best friend, but I don't think she has any idea how to get along with the class as a whole. She is not good at reading people's signals. She can be quite annoying - if she wants an answer to something she won't drop it until she gets one, whatever else you may be doing at the time. She can be really pedantic and get incredibly stressed if she doesn't understand something. A lot of that side of her is still quite toddler-y, it seems to me. Combined with her babyish way of talking I can imagine this is not doing her any favours with the Y4 girls. I thought things were improving as last year she was suddenly invited to a lot of parties, but today there was a vote for class captain or something, and she told me not one person voted for her.
Some adults describe her as 'quirky' or 'an individual', but at least one of the other girls has called her weird (mainly to do with the way she talks I think).
Again she seems ok about it, but I'm really worried. Can I help her understand how to get on better with people? She's not keen on talking about herself at all. Or should I just have faith that she will be ok?
Sorry this has turned out so long! Please feel free to tell me if I'm being an idiot.
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Can you help me stop worrying about DD?
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MonaMelendy · 15/09/2011 21:11
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