I have four ages 7,4 (nearly 5),2 and 1. My oldest two have for whatever reason been quite behind in development both having various assesments that have come to nothing, speech therapy appointments etc. My oldest daughter improved rapidly after the age of 4 and she is now 7 and doing pretty well. DS is also improving although more slowly (he wasnt able to hold a pencil properly until more recently for example) but he is really coming along. he has also had trouble with understanding and attention which is again improving but more slowly.
DD who is now 2.5 has been MUCH earlier to do things, her speech is great she loves drawing and she is always surprising me (perhaps just because i am used to the older two struggling) with what she understands etc. This is actually becoming a problem because my ds who has very little in the way of concentration anyway sees her doing something that he finds hard and just gives up.
Today for example they were all drawing, ds was really pleased he had drawn a picture of me - his picture was a mass of yellow scribbles but i made a huge fuss of how great it was. DD walks over and writes a couple of letters - not perfect but clearly letters and ds suddenly didnt want to draw anymore and made a big fuss about how his sister is a "baby" and he didnt want to play with her. It was pretty clear he was feeling put out that she had just waltzed in and done something he cant do. He will, he has improved in leaps and bounds the last few months and he isnt stupid but he cant at the moment.
How would you deal with this, I DONT teach dd things tbh she is only 2 (the letters are something she picked up from tv ) but i dont feel like i want her to stop doing things either if thats what she wants to do. Im not sure if bypassing the problem by only drawing or reading with the children apart is the best (would mean less time reading with older dd and ds simply because of havign to wait until younger dd was occupied) or try and explain to ds that it really doesnt matter and risk him just not understanding.
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How do you deal with it when a younger child overtakes an older child
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dirtydishesmakemesad · 11/09/2011 21:07
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