DS 3.5 just recently started nursery and was distraught at being left at first. Now he is over that part, his teacher told me the other day that he has been grabbing toys from other children, trying to drag children away from games they are playing and pushing other children. He is seriously NOTHING like this with me. I totally believe her that he is behaving like this - don't think I am saying "Oh, no... Not my little angel..." I am just so embarrassed that they think he is like this at home because he is quite timid and usually lets other kids take his toys or skip him in the queue for the slide at the park etc. then he cries about it. I am so shocked that he is acting like this.
Also, he still needs a short nap in the afternoons but they don't get naps in the nursery at this age so by the time he gets home he is absolutely overtired to the point of awful tantrums. I am getting him to bed an hour or 2 earlier during the week when he goes to nursery in the hope that maybe if he doesn't get overtired he won't be so badly behaved.
His teacher did say not to worry about it and that he won't be allowed to behave like that at nursery because they will explain he is acting unacceptably etc but I just feel so bad that it must look like I am a shite Mum and I must let him act like this at home but he would not get away with pushing, grabbing or any of that kind of thing. He knows how to take turns, share his toys and all the basic stuff as well as please and thank you.
Also, he seems to be changing every day at this age becoming a young boy rather than the older toddler he was a few months ago... I feel like I don't know him any more. I know it will be quite trivial to lots of you but at the moment I don't really know what I am supposed to do... I don't have many friends with kids in RL but some other boys his age that we are friendly with are really rough and tumble which makes my OH say I am making DS "too soft" but obviously I'm not teaching him to be "a wimp" if he's now pushing kids around at nursery. I feel really bad that those other children might be going home to their parents saying "The new boy pushed me over"... I would hate that to happen to my DS so I hate the thought of him doing it to someone else's DS or DD...
Anyway, sorry for the rant. TIA for any advice :(
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3.5 YO started nursery and is grabbing toys/pushing other children...
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Tamashii · 28/08/2011 00:07
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