Hi people, I hope that I am posting this in the right place ?
My LO is 8 weeks old now, and she has naturally developed a routine that I have ?tapped into?. For instance, she tends to want day feeds every three hours so if she isn?t asleep at these times I now just offer her a bottle. This is really useful when out and about as I can gauge when she is going to become hungry and get myself somewhere suitable, like a coffee shop, to feed her before she starts having a melt down. In terms of routine, I am also trying to bath her after her last bottle at roughly the same time every night.
This is all going well, the last few nights she has gone down to bed at 8pm and slept through to 7am (waking for two feeds in the middle, but always going straight back down ).
However, I am a bit clueless about the whole napping thing. I have read some stuff that has suggested these too need to be scheduled and I would really prefer not to have a rigid structure with these if it isn?t necessary. I like to get out most days for an hour or two (into town, meet a friend etc) and I am a bit concerned that the kind of napping routine I have read about would totally tie me to the house. I read that babies should nap in their cot like they would at night, but given the advice also says that at LO?s age, she should be having 3 naps a day, does this really mean I have to be at home for the vast majority of them (which, after feeding and getting out the door would in reality leave no time to get anywhere before the next one anyway!)
I hope this doesn?t sound selfish and I really would never put my own needs in front of those of my daughter, but getting out and about is quite important to me. I really feel that it stops me from feeling isolated and prevents PND.
Megan is currently napping but I kind of leave her to fall asleep as and when she wants and there is no real pattern, when she does it can be anything between 20mins and 2 hours. If I can clearly see she is tired, I will remove any stimuli that might be distracting her but that is about it. I am not putting her in her cot when she day sleeps as am concerned that I will get in a position where this is the only place she will then nap and I won?t be able to leave the house ever.
So I guess my questions are ?
- Do you schedule your naps or have a more relaxed approach? Do you actively encourage your LO?s into their naps or are just aware when they generally put themselves into a nap?
- What do you do when out and about? Is this a problem?
Sorry for the long post!!