Toilet training not going great. WWYD

[kindlekid0]

DD2 is 2.9. I took her out of pull ups about a week ago. She still doesn't seem aware of when she has to go. She prefers the toilet to potty so we are doing that. She loves her new underwear and doesn't want to wear a pull up which is good. She occasionally pees/poos in the toilet but I think it is luck more than anything. I am being lighthearted about it, no pressure, no scolding, lots of praise. I'm just not sure she has the control yet.

Often five minutes after I have sat her on the toilet she wets.

I can't remember how it went with dd1.

I am getting such conflicting advice. MIL says just leave her wet and eventually she will get uncomfortable and stop wetting herself. (I disagree and think she isn't doing it deliberately)

My sister says put her back in pull ups for a few weeks and try again.

My mother thinks it would be a disaster to put her back in pull ups as she will be confused and is scathing of the fact she isn't trained yet at nearly 3

WWYD

[Flisspaps]

If she's not ready, she's not ready. I'd go with SIL's advice, and try again in a few weeks.

[chrisrobin]

Go with your sisters advice. My DS is 3.5 and last week we started to potty train him again following a couple of false starts when he was younger. This time it was almost instant, only one accident and he has been on the potty each time since. During the previous attempts at training he didn't seem to realise he was going so we abandoned it for a few months each time.

[p99gmb]

when at home, just have her naked from the waist down.. actually being able to 'see' it happening for her will help her become more aware...

buy plenty dis-infectant but if you run with it, I think you'll be amazed at how quickly it can just happen...

FWIW I think pull-ups are just confusing... bare bums are us!!

[Jesusgirl]

I was advised by one of the girls at dd's nursery not to use pull ups at all as to a child it's still a nappy and it really did work.

Before we finally got success, we had tried potty training previously and I'd put her on the potty, 5 minutes after I get her off, she's weeing on the floor. I decided to put her back in nappies as I thought she wasn't ready. About 3 months after was when we tried again and just went straight to pants and she probably only had an accident twice since.

Sometimes their bladders are just not mature enough. And sometimes, a little encouragement might help- sticker charts etc

[kindlekid0]

Hi everyone, thanks for the replies. I'm going to give it a few more days and see how it goes. She isn't getting upset about the accidents at the moment so I'm going to stick with it. If there is no progress in the next few days I'll stop and try again in a few weeks.

Just to clarify about the pull ups - she was in pull ups instead of nappies for the past few months as nappy changing was becoming a bit of a battle. Since I started the toilet training I am only putting a pull up on her for bedtime. The rest of the time she is in underwear and light pull on trousers or bare bottom. That's the same as a bedtime nappy isn't it so not confusing for her or have I got that wrong?

[Jesusgirl]

My dd still wears her pull ups to bed as she's not dry at night yet.

My dd was easier than my ds and I had to do the bare bottom thing for a while till he got the hang of it.

[monoid]

I tried to potty train my dd lots of times and she didn't even make a decent attempt until just after she was 3 years old.
A lot of people in the generation above "us" used to potty train very early (I think due to terry nappies being a bastard to wash etc ) and a number of people in my family were hassling me to potty train from dd being 1 year old, but she just wasn't ready. As long as they are ready for school when they are 4, then it doesn't really matter IMHO.