Hi, I'm new to mumsnet and have joined because I really don't know what to d anymore and need some help. I have a 7 year old daughter whose is having more and more frequent periods of aggressive behaviour. This is generally directed at me but sometimes at her older (9) sister. It is very distressing and upsetting for everyone. Last night she refused to clean her teeth until I had complied with certain instructions... look there... do this... etc but I was tired and not in the mood to humour her, so I said, as I often do, please just clean your teeth, mummy has a lot to do and I am going to count to 5 by which time I want you to have started, otherwise I am going to go and you will go to bed without cleaning your teeth. Well, I got to 5 and so said that I was going to go and that she was going to bed and that is when it all fell apart; she shouted no and hit me on the leg, I ignored this and so she hit me some more and it ended up with her thumping me with her fists on the leg and stomach and then repeatedly kicking me. I felt like I was being beaten up. I managed to move her away from the door and just went downstairs while my partner dealt with her and gave her an immediate sanction. I don't normally leave him to deal with situations that have started with me but I am just so at the end of my tether; he have her an immediate sanction and also took away some toys. After about half a hour I went back to see her (now in bed) and asked her why she did that; she didn't talk to me so I just told her that I didn't like it when she behaved like that, that it upset and hurt me and that it wasn't acceptable. The thing is, we have been here before and she is a strong 7 year old and I am really quite worried. We haven't had any of this with her elder sister. I am really lost with what to do - I have tried, positive reinforcement, behaviour charts and sanctions with warnings.
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