DS is 4 1/4 and he is quite a gentle boy - or has been, I think.
But he's recently got into 'deading' things. I prefer his word for it, so don't correct him. He'll chase flies around the garden and dead them and all other insects, if possible. I have not made a big thing of it. I say its not nice and that flies are dirty and he must wash his hands etc.
Recently DS has started to say things like 'i'm going to dead you' under his breath, if he's cross with me. And this morning he said he'd dreamed he killed me with a spear because he wanted a different mummy who has an older daughter so that he could have an older sister!!!
I then watched a bit of Whistle down the Wind with him and there is a bit at the end where the man in the barn has a gun.
Since then DS has been out playing in the garden with pretend guns, shooting and killing pretend people. I know this is 'normal' for boys and he already does stuff like this at nursery but pretending to be a fireman and doing 'peeling' they call it, instead of shooting.
I felt really upset when I heard him doing the shooting and killing today though. My feeling is that I have to say something and stop it because if he doesn't realise what its all about now it could get an obsession and out of control.
I have said that we are kind to people in this family and do not go out of our way to make anybody hurt. I've linked it to other things we talk about like teasing/bullying/being mean/stealing things/ hitting etc
Is this too much? Should I just let him play and explore the theme? I really don't feel comfortable doing this, but don't believe in blocking children from exploring stuff either. However I would stop him from exploring jumping off a very high building or anything else dangerous ... so ...
I don't know ...
Please or to access all these features
Please
or
to access all these features
Talk to others about child development and behaviour stages here. You can find more information on our development calendar.
Behaviour/development
Boys and guns/killing
9 replies
skewiff · 01/08/2011 22:21
OP posts:
MJHASLEFTTHEBUILDING ·
02/08/2011 10:54
This reply has been deleted
Message withdrawn
Please create an account
To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.